Is this an EA?
Context - Married 8 years - 2 kids -
My wife was away on a work trip and was drunk one night after the conference dinner when during our FaceTime (different time zones) she decided to send me a selfie of a guy that was sent to her laying in bed with a cheek mask on - at the time I didn’t think anything of it but when I looked back at the messages later she had deleted the photo. I know of the guy in name only and from passing comments of work related subjects.
When she returned from the trip I snuck a look at her phone and found she returned the selfies (no nudity but skin showing) - they had also been out drinking together on a few occasions. He mentions she is his big love twice in the messages and that in a alternate universe they would be married ( all messages heart emoji from her) to which she agreed they definitely have spent many previous lives together. They were also staying at the same hotel.
When confronting her about this she said they have been friends for 9 years and they really appreciate each other and she rates him as friend yet I’ve never met or hear much about him.
Since this conversation she has taken further selfies of herself to send but has not done so (that I know of)
I’m all of male/female friendships around a marriage but would I be right to consider this as emotional cheating / potentially some physical cheating at some point?