Just need some support :( long post
hey everyone! I need some support because I’m seriously going through a tough time with my lady parts :(
So a little backstory I (29F) never really went to the gyno or even checked my lady parts often (prob stemming from the household I grew up in, Asian parents, never talk abt sex, my mom sees gyno as someone you go to only if you have sex, she is super Christian so basically it’s all taboo)
I’ve had slight pain/ripping from intercourse starting around 4 years ago but just saw it as an angle issue (IDK looking back now I wish I seeked professional advice) and here and there have irritation and itchiness but still it never bothered my day to day life so I let it go. I’m not even super sexually active either.
Anyways last week my partner noticed my vagina looked weird (slightly grey/whiteish) so I booked a gyno appt immediately. I went, they said it does look suspicious and potentially lichen and suggested a biopsy which I had on Thursday. The biopsy was done by another gyno who noted my vagina looks particularly dry and thinning and said it looks like something that’s been going on for awhile. She suggested estrogen cream but asked if I wanted to still do the biopsy which I did just to rule out anything else.
And the biopsy hurt like crazy. It was on my right vulva. And I cried all the way home! I don’t have a high pain tolerance at all.
So it’s been 3 days since the biopsy and my vagina just looks a fuckin mess. It looks so ugly I can’t even distinguish where my clitoris is and basically where anything is. It stings and still bleeds (probably because I keep tugging to look at it or try to clean it) my gyno says it takes 3 days to stop hurting but it still hurts.
I just feel so sad and down on myself for not getting checked earlier because maybe this could have all been avoided. The gyno also said my thinning and dryness is more seen in women of menopause so I’m literally wondering why as a woman in my late 20s am I having this issue…
And to top it all off my Pap smear came back saying I have BV so now I have THREE issues with my lady parts.
I’m just wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation as me? Or any words of support would mean so much! My biggest concern is healing from this biopsy and if I can recover from my thinning vagina because rn whenever I look at my vagina I just feel so sad.