u/pawbhajipaglu

i genuinely don't know whether to call this karma, the worst coincidence of my life, or divine intervention 😭

i'm 19m. i was in a situationship with a girl i'll call maya (20f). things were complicated at times, but she was genuinely the first person i'd ever been that emotionally close to. she was also the one who initially approached/befriended me, which matters because i'm pretty introverted and don't really form connections like that often.

now here's where i fucked up.

i used to run a small meme page. last year, during a period when maya and i were in a difficult situation, a girl i'll call nina randomly approached me through that page.

nina started talking to me and eventually straight up proposed to me. i rejected her because i wasn't interested in dating her and well, i was loyal to maya atp.

however, things between maya and me got really bad after a terrible fight and i liked the attention i was getting from nina, so i kept her around for a while.

and on one occasion, i flirted with her.

i'm not gonna defend that. it was wrong, i shouldn't have entertained it and i should've told maya about it. eventually i stopped talking to nina completely and blocked her. if i'm being completely truthful, i was basically just using her as someone to fall back on when things with maya were bad. i was never serious about her.

as far as i was concerned, that was the end of this random internet interaction.

except apparently the universe had other plans 😭

maya also had a small edit/content account.

at some point, another girl online, let's call her sara, approached maya through that account and befriended her.

sara apparently had this habit of approaching small creators online and becoming friends with them.

during their friendship, sara told maya stories about having a boyfriend.

she even sent maya screenshots of conversations with this supposed boyfriend, including screenshots where the guy was flirting with her.

sara never revealed the guy's identity.

so maya had absolutely no fucking idea who the guy in those screenshots was.

and as far as we know, sara had NO IDEA that maya and i even knew each other.

keep that in mind 😭

recently, maya was telling me some stuff about sara and something started feeling REALLY weird to me.

her behaviour, the way she approached smaller creators, the way she built her new accounts/personality around the people she befriended, everything just felt uncannily similar to nina.

eventually i told maya:

"i think nina and sara might literally be the same person."

we started comparing what we knew.

and then everything fucking clicked.

nina and sara were apparently the SAME CATFISH 😭

meaning the girl who approached me as nina had independently approached maya as sara.

neither of us knew.

and the catfish apparently didn't know maya and i were involved either.

now remember the mysterious "boyfriend" sara had told maya about?

yeah.

that was supposedly ME 💀

except i was NEVER nina's boyfriend.

i had literally rejected her proposal. we never dated. the only incriminating thing she actually had on me were those messages where i had flirted with her.

and those screenshots sara had shown maya of her mysterious "boyfriend" flirting with her?

they were MY FUCKING CHATS WITH NINA 😭😭

maya just hadn't known that the guy in those screenshots was me.

so when we realised nina = sara and i told maya about my history with nina, the dots finally connected.

maya pulled up the old screenshots sara had sent her.

and there were my fucking messages.

i had essentially EXPOSED MYSELF by figuring out that these two catfish identities were the same person 😭🙏🏻

maya obviously felt betrayed. i admitted what i'd done, apologised, and she ended things/blocked me.

and honestly, i understand.

i fucked up by flirting with someone else and hiding it. i'm not asking anyone to tell me that part was okay. it wasn't.

but i genuinely cannot process the fucking chain of events that led to her finding out.

out of every random person on the internet i could've stupidly flirted with, i somehow chose a catfish who:

1. independently found the girl i was seeing

2. befriended her under ANOTHER identity

3. apparently didn't know we even knew each other

4. lied to her that i was her boyfriend

5. sent her screenshots of me without revealing my identity

6. and then later I MYSELF realised the two identities were probably the same person, which caused the girl i was seeing to finally realise that the anonymous guy in those screenshots was me 😭

if i had never noticed the similarity between those accounts, she might literally never have known those screenshots were mine.

again, i know the obvious lesson here. if i hadn't flirted in the first place, there would've been nothing to expose. that's completely on me and losing maya because of it hurts like hell.

but WHAT THE FUCK ARE THE ODDS OF THE REST OF THIS HAPPENING 😭🙏🏻

i genuinely feel like i experienced karma delivered through a two-account catfish cinematic universe.

i'm simultaneously heartbroken, angry at myself and completely mindfucked by how this even happened.

like bro what the fuck 😭

tldr: i fucked up and flirted with a random girl online while things were bad with the girl i was seeing. turns out that random girl was a catfish who had ALSO independently befriended the girl i was seeing under a completely different identity, without knowing that we knew each other. she told her i was her "boyfriend" and even sent her screenshots of me flirting without revealing who i was. months later I MYSELF realised the two accounts were probably the same person, told the girl i was seeing, and accidentally gave her the missing piece needed to realise that the anonymous guy in those screenshots was me. she ended things and blocked me. completely my fault for flirting in the first place but what in the divine intervention fuck are those odds 😭

i genuinely don't know whether to call this karma, the worst coincidence of my life, or divine intervention 😭

i'm 19m. i was in a situationship with a girl i'll call maya (20f). things were complicated at times, but she was genuinely the first person i'd ever been that emotionally close to. she was also the one who initially approached/befriended me, which matters because i'm pretty introverted and don't really form connections like that often.

now here's where i fucked up.

i used to run a small meme page. last year, during a period when maya and i were in a difficult situation, a girl i'll call nina randomly approached me through that page.

nina started talking to me and eventually straight up proposed to me. i rejected her because i wasn't interested in dating her and well, i was loyal to maya atp.

however, things between maya and me got really bad after a terrible fight and i liked the attention i was getting from nina, so i kept her around for a while.

and on one occasion, i flirted with her.

i'm not gonna defend that. it was wrong, i shouldn't have entertained it and i should've told maya about it. eventually i stopped talking to nina completely and blocked her. if i'm being completely truthful, i was basically just using her as someone to fall back on when things with maya were bad. i was never serious about her.

as far as i was concerned, that was the end of this random internet interaction.

except apparently the universe had other plans 😭

maya also had a small edit/content account.

at some point, another girl online, let's call her sara, approached maya through that account and befriended her.

sara apparently had this habit of approaching small creators online and becoming friends with them.

during their friendship, sara told maya stories about having a boyfriend.

she even sent maya screenshots of conversations with this supposed boyfriend, including screenshots where the guy was flirting with her.

sara never revealed the guy's identity.

so maya had absolutely no fucking idea who the guy in those screenshots was.

and as far as we know, sara had NO IDEA that maya and i even knew each other.

keep that in mind 😭

recently, maya was telling me some stuff about sara and something started feeling REALLY weird to me.

her behaviour, the way she approached smaller creators, the way she built her new accounts/personality around the people she befriended, everything just felt uncannily similar to nina.

eventually i told maya:

"i think nina and sara might literally be the same person."

we started comparing what we knew.

and then everything fucking clicked.

nina and sara were apparently the SAME CATFISH 😭

meaning the girl who approached me as nina had independently approached maya as sara.

neither of us knew.

and the catfish apparently didn't know maya and i were involved either.

now remember the mysterious "boyfriend" sara had told maya about?

yeah.

that was supposedly ME 💀

except i was NEVER nina's boyfriend.

i had literally rejected her proposal. we never dated. the only incriminating thing she actually had on me were those messages where i had flirted with her.

and those screenshots sara had shown maya of her mysterious "boyfriend" flirting with her?

they were MY FUCKING CHATS WITH NINA 😭😭

maya just hadn't known that the guy in those screenshots was me.

so when we realised nina = sara and i told maya about my history with nina, the dots finally connected.

maya pulled up the old screenshots sara had sent her.

and there were my fucking messages.

i had essentially EXPOSED MYSELF by figuring out that these two catfish identities were the same person 😭🙏🏻

maya obviously felt betrayed. i admitted what i'd done, apologised, and she ended things/blocked me.

and honestly, i understand.

i fucked up by flirting with someone else and hiding it. i'm not asking anyone to tell me that part was okay. it wasn't.

but i genuinely cannot process the fucking chain of events that led to her finding out.

out of every random person on the internet i could've stupidly flirted with, i somehow chose a catfish who:

1. independently found the girl i was seeing

2. befriended her under ANOTHER identity

3. apparently didn't know we even knew each other

4. lied to her that i was her boyfriend

5. sent her screenshots of me without revealing my identity

6. and then later I MYSELF realised the two identities were probably the same person, which caused the girl i was seeing to finally realise that the anonymous guy in those screenshots was me 😭

if i had never noticed the similarity between those accounts, she might literally never have known those screenshots were mine.

again, i know the obvious lesson here. if i hadn't flirted in the first place, there would've been nothing to expose. that's completely on me and losing maya because of it hurts like hell.

but WHAT THE FUCK ARE THE ODDS OF THE REST OF THIS HAPPENING 😭🙏🏻

i genuinely feel like i experienced karma delivered through a two-account catfish cinematic universe.

i'm simultaneously heartbroken, angry at myself and completely mindfucked by how this even happened.

like bro what the fuck 😭

tldr: i fucked up and flirted with a random girl online while things were bad with the girl i was seeing. turns out that random girl was a catfish who had ALSO independently befriended the girl i was seeing under a completely different identity, without knowing that we knew each other. she told her i was her "boyfriend" and even sent her screenshots of me flirting without revealing who i was. months later I MYSELF realised the two accounts were probably the same person, told the girl i was seeing, and accidentally gave her the missing piece needed to realise that the anonymous guy in those screenshots was me. she ended things and blocked me. completely my fault for flirting in the first place but what in the divine intervention fuck are those odds 😭

i genuinely don't know whether to call this karma, the worst coincidence of my life, or divine intervention 😭

i'm 19m. i was in a situationship with a girl i'll call maya (20f). things were complicated at times, but she was genuinely the first person i'd ever been that emotionally close to. she was also the one who initially approached/befriended me, which matters because i'm pretty introverted and don't really form connections like that often.

now here's where i fucked up.

i used to run a small meme page. last year, during a period when maya and i were in a difficult situation, a girl i'll call nina randomly approached me through that page.

nina started talking to me and eventually straight up proposed to me. i rejected her because i wasn't interested in dating her and well, i was loyal to maya atp.

however, things between maya and me got really bad after a terrible fight and i liked the attention i was getting from nina, so i kept her around for a while.

and on one occasion, i flirted with her.

i'm not gonna defend that. it was wrong, i shouldn't have entertained it and i should've told maya about it. eventually i stopped talking to nina completely and blocked her. if i'm being completely truthful, i was basically just using her as someone to fall back on when things with maya were bad. i was never serious about her.

as far as i was concerned, that was the end of this random internet interaction.

except apparently the universe had other plans 😭

maya also had a small edit/content account.

at some point, another girl online, let's call her sara, approached maya through that account and befriended her.

sara apparently had this habit of approaching small creators online and becoming friends with them.

during their friendship, sara told maya stories about having a boyfriend.

she even sent maya screenshots of conversations with this supposed boyfriend, including screenshots where the guy was flirting with her.

sara never revealed the guy's identity.

so maya had absolutely no fucking idea who the guy in those screenshots was.

and as far as we know, sara had NO IDEA that maya and i even knew each other.

keep that in mind 😭

recently, maya was telling me some stuff about sara and something started feeling REALLY weird to me.

her behaviour, the way she approached smaller creators, the way she built her new accounts/personality around the people she befriended, everything just felt uncannily similar to nina.

eventually i told maya:

"i think nina and sara might literally be the same person."

we started comparing what we knew.

and then everything fucking clicked.

nina and sara were apparently the SAME CATFISH 😭

meaning the girl who approached me as nina had independently approached maya as sara.

neither of us knew.

and the catfish apparently didn't know maya and i were involved either.

now remember the mysterious "boyfriend" sara had told maya about?

yeah.

that was supposedly ME 💀

except i was NEVER nina's boyfriend.

i had literally rejected her proposal. we never dated. the only incriminating thing she actually had on me were those messages where i had flirted with her.

and those screenshots sara had shown maya of her mysterious "boyfriend" flirting with her?

they were MY FUCKING CHATS WITH NINA 😭😭

maya just hadn't known that the guy in those screenshots was me.

so when we realised nina = sara and i told maya about my history with nina, the dots finally connected.

maya pulled up the old screenshots sara had sent her.

and there were my fucking messages.

i had essentially EXPOSED MYSELF by figuring out that these two catfish identities were the same person 😭🙏🏻

maya obviously felt betrayed. i admitted what i'd done, apologised, and she ended things/blocked me.

and honestly, i understand.

i fucked up by flirting with someone else and hiding it. i'm not asking anyone to tell me that part was okay. it wasn't.

but i genuinely cannot process the fucking chain of events that led to her finding out.

out of every random person on the internet i could've stupidly flirted with, i somehow chose a catfish who:

1. independently found the girl i was seeing

2. befriended her under ANOTHER identity

3. apparently didn't know we even knew each other

4. lied to her that i was her boyfriend

5. sent her screenshots of me without revealing my identity

6. and then later I MYSELF realised the two identities were probably the same person, which caused the girl i was seeing to finally realise that the anonymous guy in those screenshots was me 😭

if i had never noticed the similarity between those accounts, she might literally never have known those screenshots were mine.

again, i know the obvious lesson here. if i hadn't flirted in the first place, there would've been nothing to expose. that's completely on me and losing maya because of it hurts like hell.

but WHAT THE FUCK ARE THE ODDS OF THE REST OF THIS HAPPENING 😭🙏🏻

i genuinely feel like i experienced karma delivered through a two-account catfish cinematic universe.

i'm simultaneously heartbroken, angry at myself and completely mindfucked by how this even happened.

like bro what the fuck 😭

tldr: i fucked up and flirted with a random girl online while things were bad with the girl i was seeing. turns out that random girl was a catfish who had ALSO independently befriended the girl i was seeing under a completely different identity, without knowing that we knew each other. she told her i was her "boyfriend" and even sent her screenshots of me flirting without revealing who i was. months later I MYSELF realised the two accounts were probably the same person, told the girl i was seeing, and accidentally gave her the missing piece needed to realise that the anonymous guy in those screenshots was me. she ended things and blocked me. completely my fault for flirting in the first place but what in the divine intervention fuck are those odds 😭

okay so giving a little bit of contest,i am from a tier-1 du college

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just recently my first year exams got over and i have realised i did not do much throughout the first year

i do have good academics tho (9+ gpa)

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here are the things i regret and could use some guidance and help with :

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1. could not join any good societies apparently because of terrible communication skills and lack of confidence

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2. well again because of my terrible communication skills,i did not network much and don't have any idea on what to do,what not to do,i have no idea about what to do with my future

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3.i have no idea how to land internships,where to get them,i did not participate in many case competitions throughout the first year again because of lack of confidence

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i just feel super clueless and confused about what to do

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any suggestions and insights are welcomed on how to improve and figure out what should i do.