my mother almost ruined my wedding and thinks it's all a big laugh.
so we are currently overseas in my fiance's home country of Brazil. we are deep in the interior where nobody and I mean nobody speaks English, my fiance and I speak Portuguese though so it's fine for us to shepherd my parents around.
we are currently a few hundred km further inland than usual sightseeing with my parents for a few days, my wedding is a week away, my fiance and I have been working long hours and saving money like crazy to pay for this wedding, this has been a stressful period of us organising everything.
my mother hasn't been eating to "slim down" for the wedding, to a ridiculous extent, after todays events I think she's probably had 4 grapes and a cup of water in the last few days, oh she's 65 btw.
so today we are out sightseeing and she collapsed, badly. she didn't hit her head but she lost consciousness and My father and I caught her and put her on the ground, she then tried to stand up 2 more times and collapsed again so an ambulance came and took her to the hospital, 2x hydration IV's later and she was totally fine like nothing ever happened.
anyway what was originally fear and concern for My mother has now turned to anger, she did this to herself by not drinking fluids or eating when we are literally in the middle of nowhere in a reasonably dangerous part of Brazil, all day they've been talking to random people on the street, walking off when my fiance and I have told them they need to stay right next to us etc then my mom puts her health at risk in an area we have no contacts, don't have a clean way to exit and is so impoverished the local hospital doesn't even have hot water.
like if she had fallen and broken something or hit her head that would have been our wedding over, also we only came to this area because my parents read something about the location online and wanted to see, anyway after she was discharged from the hospital and we are on the way home she's laughing about the whole thing and making jokes.. my fiance and I didn't find it funny.
it's extremely frustrating, i yelled at my dad today when we almost went talking to some random dude on the street who'd clearly come down from a nearby favela up the hill, he thought it was a big joke and the guy was probably alright, I yelled at him that you dont get second chances here in this country.
sitting in my hotel trying to de stress now, I just can't get over my parents not taking things seriously.