Hi guys, I'm a student and hobby photographer passing through the city on a roadtrip. I was told to stop here and it's very beautiful.
I tried to get some sunset shots today, but the sun didn't really come out so hoping to get some when the sun rises. Any recommendations? I heard the column is good. Thanks!
Trying to get some context, I used to go to this place all the time and I recently heard from some friends it closed down. Anyone have any context? Not in the city anymore but was curious they seemed to be doing fine.
Some context, recently I've been getting pretty bad anxiety from feeling behind in life. Most of the peers I know have moved and started their own lives, and for me I'm still doing an internship, and have a year left of my masters before starting full time.
In grade school, I had always been ahead and performed well. I graduated top of my class with scholarships to a great state school, and then once college started, boom, I started slacking, fast forward 4 years, and I wasn't satisfied with the job offers I had. They neither paid the amount I wanted nor were in the actual field I wanted to do. Yes I was being picky, but this led to a year of being unemployed.
Thankfully, I was able to get into a good online graduate program as well as find an internship, but compared to my peers also doing the internship, I feel a lot older than most of them. That paired with all of my friends having moved to cities and being employed really hit me, like "damn, I'm not going to start full time until 3 years after graduating undergraduate."
I know some posts like this come off as fishing or humble brag, but I genuinely do feel like my life has been delayed and these years spent after undergrad has been so much time I could've spent enjoying life instead of being unemployed for a year at home doing nothing.
Any advice on how to change this mindset and how to deal with this anxiety?
Question is title. I swear online in the degree audit document it said that PUBP6540 and INTA6742 count towards policy degree requirements, but I'm seeing now they're in the fall through category on my degree audit. Could someone please explain? Did this change?
Edit: For future purposes, this is just an issue with the policy track. I got in contact with an OMS Advisor and fixed it.
This is a rephrased post but I'm interested in understanding the sociological and psychological reasons behind indirect communication and "social niceties," specifically when they conflict with clarity and boundary-setting. I think the way current societal rules and expecations are set kind of lead to people ghosting and being passive decision makers.
Here's where I am coming from and hopefully someone maybe who studies this can offer some well reasoned thoughts. From observation and personal, anecdotal experience, these social rules are conditioned in us as kids but I feel creates dysfunction in adulthood.
I distinctly remember in elementary school, we were told if we wanted to invite someone to our birthday party, we should invite the whole class. I think at its core this is well intentioned and promotes including people which is good, but later on in life is extremely ineffective and this mode of thinking has led to a lot of issues we see in modern society today. To be clear, I'm not saying discluding people is good, but it almost feels like it's instilled in people if you don't vibe with everyone, you are somehow in the wrong, and that not wanting to be friends with someone makes your actions "mean."
Take this for example: You have a coworker whom you genuinely respect, like, and enjoy collaborating with. The professional chemistry works, but you have no desire to extend that dynamic into your personal life. You do not want to grab drinks on Saturday or hang out one on one.
Following the logic of societal niceties and conventions, if said coworker asks you to hang out, you don't have many options to close this cleanly, efficiently, and establish a boundary without hurting coworker's feelings potentially.
Let's analyze the available options based on social rules and expectations:
By not conditioning us as children to accept rejection, it creates suboptimal conditions for social growth for both parties involved.
- doesn't learn to say no if they're more people pleaser
- become avoidant if they're closer to that personality type.
- doesn't get practice in experiencing rejection and being resilient
- becomes anxious due to guessing about social interactions
This type of dynamic is too common and this is only one of MANY scenarios where this happens. If we normalized politely saying no, and teaching people to respect and accept that answer without taking it personally, our society would be so much more functional.
Hopefully in this framing, my questions make more sense.
My questions for social scientists:
Edit: I thought of another aspect to this as well, if people were conditioned to not view rejection as a bad thing, but just as a part of life and as a neutral action, wouldn't this make the overall population also more mentally resilient and equipped to deal with the inevitable? It's part of life. I personally know a lot of people who aren't good with being rejected romantically. I know plenty who don't take job rejections well. I'm not discluding myself from these groups but these social niceties from my observations seem to do more harm than good. So all the more confused why they exist. Logically, I feel it doesn't make sense.
A lot of social niceties are well intentioned and conditioned in us as kids but create dysfunction in adulthood. I distinctly remember in elementary school, we were told if we wanted to invite someone to our birthday party, we should invite the whole class. I think at its core this is well intentioned and promotes including people which is good, but later on in life is extremely ineffective and this mode of thinking has led to a lot of issues we see in modern society today.
Take this for example: You have a coworker whom you genuinely respect, like, and enjoy collaborating with. The professional chemistry works, but you have no desire to extend that dynamic into your personal life. You do not want to grab drinks on Saturday or hang out one on one.
Following the logic of societal niceties and conventions, if said coworker asks you to hang out, you don't have many options to close this cleanly, efficiently, and establish a boundary without hurting coworker's feelings potentially.
Let's analyze the available options based on social rules and expectations:
By not conditioning us as children to accept rejection, it creates suboptimal conditions for social growth for both parties involved.
- doesn't learn to say no if they're more people pleaser
- become avoidant if they're closer to that personality type.
- doesn't get practice in experiencing rejection and being resilient
- becomes anxious due to guessing about social interactions
This type of dynamic is too common and this is only one of MANY scenarios where this happens. If we normalized politely saying no, and teaching people to respect and accept that answer without taking it personally, our society would be so much more functional.
I'm curious what the graduation rate for this program is. I feel like a lot of people are hopping on this degree and OMSCS, but curious how many people actually finish vs just enroll or get accepted. I'm wondering if there are statistics for this because I can't find them online from any reliable source. Understandably this might be because it takes variable lengths of time but anyone know where this data would be located?