u/pennylives33

My stbxh is purposely being difficult in order to increase my divorce costs. I recently texted and emailed him my bank account info so he could deposit monthly maintenance. Did he deposit it? No! Then I hear from my lawyer that his lawyer sent a letter asking for my bank account info. Ugh! He has been refusing to engage for over 2 years.

He refuses to do anything which requires me to get lawyer to contact his lawyer, which costs me every damn time. He has repeatedly refused to give full financial disclosure, dissipates assets, everything to make things more difficult and costly, knowing I don't have income as I have been a SAHM for 25 years. I have to borrow from my parents to pay the lawyers.

To make this all worse, everything he has done he claims I do/did. And yet my children and I are victims of his horrid abuse. He belongs in jail for what he did and I pray he will go there one day. (Not exaggerating, just don't want to go there.) I have been trying so hard to help my children heal but this divorce and his behavior is making it much more difficult.

Just needed to vent.

I have been a SAHM for almost 30 years, the last 15 years in the UK. I have only had a couple of part time jobs at Blockbuster Video for a short time in the US.

My soon to be ex-husband is pushing the idea that I should easily be able to get a job once divorced. I do have a science bachelor degree but it is outdated and the knowledge wouldn't really transfer to the UK due to being geographically dependent.

I have seen a lot of talk and my children have also talked about CVs being sorted via AI and often experience is the first way to trim it down. I can not see how any CV I could put together would not immediately be put in chapter 13 by a business.

In addition, I have health/joint issues that mean manual labour or any job that requires standing for a too long would be physically difficult.

Any suggestions on how I could get a job, particularly in an area with high unemployment already? TIA