u/percyx1981

Hi Everyone

After a few years of suspecting I have adhd, listening to in excess of 70+ podcasts, reading online material and studies etc, I booked an assessment and not surprising to me I have been diagnosed with combined type adhd with a rating of severe.

It explains alot of how I behaved as a child and the problems that came from such behaviours. It also explains why those issues are still present in my life.

For some background, my wife planted the seed a few years ago when she would insinuated that I have ADHD based on silly things I might have done at the time. A few months ago, I booked a pre screening for ADHD and I told her my result i.e. there are strong indicators that I could have ADHD. Her comment was everybody has Adhd which stopped me from going for a full assessment such was the impact of her comment.

About a month ago, she decided to almost berate me at home that she herself has 8 out of 10 symptoms and not to waste my money on an assessment. Her words to me were "you dont have adhd".

That didnt stop me and booked the assesmsrnt. After receiving the diagnosis yesterday I feel very flat when really I should be happy. I anticipated this result for a few years now and now there is just nothing. I feel like she would laugh or minimise the diagnosis as opposed to being supportive.

Not sure what I am looking for here, but just wondering did anyone experience anything similar and how did you move forward?

Thanks

Hi Folks

I currently work as a tax manager in a big enough firm. The experience get here is limited and most of the work is compliance based.

The money is decent as is wfh policy and pension contributions.

At the start of the year however I decided to start looking for another role due to the progression issue but mainly due to the fact that we had 2 leavers and 1 person retire in the last 12 months who have not been adequately replaced. These were senior staff and we have since taking on 2 interns as a replacement!! This caused alot of pressure last November during income tax season and I feel the same issue will be there again this year.

I did a couple of interviews recently and got offered both jobs.

Job A I have said no to as it was very similar to my current line of work.

Job B is more in the line of tax advisory and consultancy and there is great scope to grow and progress. The financial package is pretty much identical to my current role. It is not a manager role hence there is no additional pay as such but I dont mind.

My issues are this:

I received the contract of employment and noted that it mentioned the employer can reduce pay with notice. Just that, no ifs buts and maybes, just that they can reduce it. I have never seen this before. They have since said to me that this is standard in a contract and that it is to cover exceptional circumstances.

Pension - they have agreed to make a substantial contribution after 6 months of service but that is not mentioned in the contract.

Remote work - they have agreed to 2 days at home and 3 days in. Again this is not stated on the contract. They stated that it is never mentioned in the contract but rather in the employers handbook. I have read it and it says you have to apply. I know somebody working there and they said there is WFH.

What do you think guys and gals?

Ill be honest I did 2 interviews here for Job B and really liked the people. The vibe coming out of the interview was very good and I wanted the job.

I have asked for all 3 to be included in the contract.

Just diagnosed but feel flat

New job offer - should I take it?