24F What in my chart might help me understand my attraction to emotionally unsafe or seemingly unattainable partners?
I want to understand a recurring relationship pattern and how I can change it. I’m often attracted to men I perceive as out of my reach, often I admire for their looks, success, intelligence, or ambition. I sometimes put them on a pedestal and become very invested in whether they choose and validate me and it makes me feel like i'm in love with them as a person and I feel good that they chose me. My past relationships have tended to be intense but short, and my partners have ended up leaving. I can feel deeply attached while also feeling anxious, insecure, and afraid of losing them. I’m interested in understanding my choices and responses through my birth chart. How might my 7th house, its ruler, or aspects involving Venus and the Moon relate to these patterns? I’m unsure how to interpret those factors together. What could help me work toward relationships with more emotional safety, consistency, and mutual respect?