People are often shocked when they get to know me at the difference between how they first perceived me and the person they come to know. People also struggle to be physically affectionate with me. Why? How can I lessen the shock/come across more easily?
I understand it can be useful to be intimidating in some situations but I find it sort of lonely.
From childhood I've always known when something bad was about to happen to or affect me. There's no way to stop what's coming, I've tried. It's like a warning will go off in my heart, I can actually feel something bad is coming but I don't know what it is. For some reason it's only bad situations I get a warning for. Just wondering if anything in my chart explains why I can sense these things
Why do I struggle so much with relationships and friendships? I tend to become too people-pleasing when I speak, but sometimes I can also be very direct. People sometimes seem irritated with me or think I’m controlling when I get close to someone (romantically or platonically), even though that’s not my intention. I also often feel left out in friendship groups, and I find it hard to leave even when the group dynamics feel toxic. A lot of people also seem to find me “weird,” and I’ve always felt a bit socially out of place.
I also notice I get anxious when I don’t have someone close to me around or when I feel disconnected from them. I’ve also experienced power dynamics in school, and I’m wondering if this could show up again in work settings based on my chart. What could be causing all of this, and how can I improve the way I communicate and connect with others?
Recently, I broke a lease on an apartment in favour of another live-in working opportunity that ended up being much worse. At the time, I disliked where I was living but I think was making excuses for not wanting to ask for help with rent. I was also feeling isolated so I convinced myself the other housing was better, when deep down I knew it probably wasn't right for me. I'm realizing me leaving was part of a long pattern of self-sabotage. How does my chart support this inclination to self-sabotage?
I'm trying to understand my 0 degree Sag Mars more but I cannot find any information online. How is it significant to me/my chart and play out?
I’ve always been a push over. I struggle with this still and I can’t seem to stand up for myself. I can’t express my emotions properly either. i had an extremely traumatic childhood and i know this contributes to that. can anyone just give me some insight on my chart ?
Hi! This is my first post on Reddit, so I appreciate your kindness in advance!
I would love astrological insight about patterns of jealousy in my life. I have noticed a pattern of friends who end up being secret enemies or people telling lies about me.
Ex: I have multiple “friends” who claim to be supporters of me but don’t even try to make it to my shows/accomplishments. Not anything complicated but something that would mean a lot to me. I have even gone as far as to express my need for my friends to reach out and support what I’m doing. (Isn’t that what friends are for?- why do I even have to ask)
This jealousy/lies thing goes for work as well. Most jobs that I have lost have been due to someone lying to management about me.
Ex: a venue I performed in (musician) for 7 years and worked my way into a prime time slot got a new booking manager in January and after shaking my hand once let me go on basis of servers saying I was “rude to guests” even though all of those people I considered like family for many years. And I know for FACT I’ve never been rude to a crowd. I only made $ from tips and I did very well for myself. I went as far as talking to crowds when I am off stage.
I have learned to not let it get to me as much, I know I am a very confident and direct person and it can really rub some people the wrong way. I have used astrology for many years to understand myself and others so I really look forward to your insight(s). Thank you.
Whether it’s school or work or friendship I feel like eventually there’s always a point where drama goes down and I’m left alone (fired or excluded) and upset and angry at the way I was treated. I’m a woman and I know I can come across quite blunt and passionate about my opinions but I don’t think I’m unkind until my boundaries get pushed to an extreme. I can admit when I’m wrong and I do frequently but I don’t feel like I get the same treatment from others.
I find that I get really attached to people and then I get hurt and somehow by trying to resolve things I end up hurting them back. And then at work I get warnings or get fired.
The thing is, I like my assertiveness. It protects me and makes me feel confident. But I wonder if I’m actually being aggressive or stubborn without realizing it.
I’m just worried that the problem lies inherently in me and I’m not seeing it. I’ve been putting in a lot of work trying to be less abrasive in all of my relationships but this keeps happening.
Hi everyone,
I have a question regarding the significance of Venus entering Cancer (today/yesterday) as a Cancer Venus myself.
I keep seeing this transit referenced as an extremely positive one, especially in the lead up to June 9 and the conjunction with Jupiter.
Now, June 9 is my birthday (😁) and I was wondering how this "abundance" or positive window between today and June 9 might show up for me, as well as if there's any suggested action or things to take care of (or rituals, even) that I should plan for June 9?
I have included a transit chart for June 9 specifically, but I would be interested in hearing as well about the overall window of the next three weeks, from now until June 9.
I don't wanna miss this window of opportunity if there's any way that I can use it.
Thank you in advance for your suggestions 🙏
I get commonly told I'm intense, moody, and that I give off a vibe very different than I feel on the inside. It's hard for me to understand the perception/impression I give off because it shocks me every time and I want to work on it.
I’m 20f and I’ve never had a real romantic relationship. Not even close honestly. Mostly just online misunderstandings or situations that never became anything. I usually meet those guys through games or anonymous chats when I’m bored late at night, sometimes while under substances, and then I get attached too easily even if nothing real is happening. The weird part is that things usually start happening even before they see my face, so now I constantly overthink and wonder if there’s just something deeply wrong with my appearance.
The guys I genuinely like never like me back. In real life it feels even worse. I try to talk to them, get closer to them, show interest, and I even confessed my feelings twice before. Both times I basically got ignored afterward. Not even awkward reactions, they just stopped looking in my direction completely like I disappeared.
Whenever I meet men, they usually end up interested in someone else, often even my friends. I feel like I’m just a catalyst for other people’s love stories instead of having my own.
What makes this confusing is that I actually cared about relationships since I was around 14. I remember feeling hurt watching other girls get attention from boys while I got bullied or ignored. Back then I was very quiet and emotionally distant because I was scared of attachment in general, even friendships.
Now it completely flipped. I have friends now and consider myself actually very bubbly and warm when I feel comfortable around someone. However, I do not go out with them, everyone is being busy with their own affairs lately and, to be honest, I hate big companies. But I’m almost always outside, walking around, studying at university, working, doing hobbies, trying new things, keeping myself busy and productive ( although now it’s becoming difficult to focus on anything else because wanting a relationship takes up so much space in my head). I spent so much time outside the house that logically I should have met someone by now, but it still feels like nobody notices me romantically at all.
Then I come home and cry and honestly I end up ruining the mood for my family and friends. I just crave connection so badly now and it honestly destroys my relationships with my close ones and my self esteem that I’ve never even been asked out on a date.
I just want to understand why this keeps happening to me and what I’m supposed to fix. If anyone can read my chart and maybe explain emotional patterns, blocks, or relationship issues, I’d really appreciate it.
Hi
I wanted to get clarity so i can improve:
When i genuinely smile (with emotion), i notice people stare with slightly raised eyebrows
When i frown (nervous, irritated) people assume its about them and do an intense face towards me or “shit test” me ( saying neutral thing in not neutral tone to check my inner intention, for example “good day” in a sly asking tone, which irritates me even more, because its not my intention to harm them or anything, im just angry / nervous
Why is this happening?
Thanks
I've always struggled with friendships, since I was a kid. Teachers used to defend me because I was the quiet, straight A student who always tried helping others where I could. I couldn't and still struggle to say no but it got so bad that at a school camp the teacher had to remove me from a specific room with girls because she heard them gossiping about me and wouldn't repeat what they said.
I've noticed that whenever friends flip on me, it's never one person at a time, it's like they recruit other people (it's always a group. always). In 2024 I went through the hardest time in my life (Mom's health took a turn for the worst and she's been incapacitated ever since requiring caregivers which has now taken center stage in my life) - my friends in the neighbourhood flipped on me (it shocked me because they're men, 1 gay but still... men and I always experienced this from women). I don't know what I keep doing wrong. I was shy growing up but it's not as bad, it's still there but I force myself to go whenever I'm invited out, I participate in all the group activities, and I've always been told I notice even the smallest of things and make people feel seen.
I have a Libra Sun in 12h (I've always thought it was 11h) and whenever friends flip on me, they ALWAYS gossip about me, some people come back to tell me, sometimes I hear it myself, but it never sounds like they ever liked me. So I don't understand what do I do wrong? How do I repel people? I try to be respectful and considerate of everyone at all times. Why do my friends end up hating me?
craziest part is earlier i was thinking how money comes to me easily but i tend to struggle holding it 😅
Can someone help me understand how I can work on my north node in Gemini? Thanks in advance
It’s like I trigger or ignite something in people that makes them so unnecessarily mean to me??
Does my chart suggest lessons around isolation and difficult relationships?
I (26F) am struggling with an overwhelming amount of loneliness and isolation in my life, and I’m wondering if there’s something in my chart that points to difficult relationship patterns or feeling disconnected from others.
I currently have almost no one in my life outside of my parents. I used to be extremely social in high school and had a huge friend group, but over time those friendships either ended badly or slowly disappeared.
I joined the military, got married young, moved across the country, and then went through a divorce after my partner left me for someone else. Since then, I’ve struggled to rebuild any kind of stable support system. Every relationship I had ever been in previously was built on a pretty codependent foundation.
It’s now been about 4 years since my divorce and I still feel deeply isolated. I work from home, rarely go out, and after a lot of painful experiences (bad relationships, betrayal, assault, toxic friendships, and an insufferable amount of rebirth, awakening, and healing) I’ve developed a pretty rough inner dialogue and a comfort with just removing myself from the equation.
Does my chart suggest lessons around isolation and difficult relationships?
I’m a med student, I did manage to make very little friendships around , but if feel like im trapped in the same space for a long time, like nothing is happening in my life outside of studying. I feel like im always open to new people and get involved in activities that would allow me to meet more people, yet there’s like always a barrier that stops me from doing so. I do a lot of hearing and less of talking ab myself, I feel like im always doing too much for the people that I love but I get very little back, yet I keep doing as much for them as before. I know very little about charts and placements so I don’t know what to ask specifically ab this. And thank you in advance <3.
I’m pretty independent but don’t feel like I really show my independence and passion about things until I get to know people better. But do any aspects in my chart make me intimidating? I know I can be direct but I don’t think that’s how I am around people who I am just getting to know.
