r/AskAstrologers

Literally my whole life, I’ve always just been focused on me and people have gone out of their way to hate on me and try to tear me down. I’ve had people since I was in high school slander me, start rumors about me, and try to turn others against me. I’m 28 years old and it still happens. I am so friendly and genuinely caring, I just also happen to be blunt and don’t sugar coat things, but my heart is good. I don’t get why I’ve always had so many people hating, like who tf am I ??? 😞

So I (F) have gotten told by more than a few friends and acquaintances that when they first met me, they were intimidated by me, or even thought I didn't like them.

I find that really weird, because I think I'm a pretty extroverted and friendly person. I like meeting people and making friends. I want people to feel comfortable around me, I like making an effort to make people feel included, and I'm definitely not particularly physically intimidating either. I've asked what made them feel that way, but they usually kind of shrug it off and say that they don't know, or sometimes that it's fine because I wasn't intimidating "in a bad way".

I'd like to get some insight so I can keep this in mind and hopefully have better first impressions from here on out ♥️

hello everyone, I’m 21 F (soon to be 22). all my life I’ve felt like I don’t belong anywhere. in friendships I’m always the background character, always overlooked and forgotten. even tho I‘m a very attentive and honest person who remembers everything about their friends, trying to make everyone feel included. but i’ve never experienced that in return. I swear if I disappear tomorrow, no one would even notice. the same thing with the relationships. never been in one, never been approached by a guy. i’ve always been the one to make the first move/most effort in my situationships. I’ve always felt out of place around people, misunderstood, like an alien. feel like I also need to mention that I’m on the spectrum, so maybe that contributes to that. and because of all this I feel very lonely both mentally and physically. and that loneliness creates such a void in my soul, I can’t escape it no matter what I do. I’m so lonely that sometimes I start being nostalgic over times in the past when I had ”friends” even tho I was treated badly during those times. I‘m afraid this loneliness will make me waste the best years of my life. my question is what’s exactly in my chart is causing these events in my life and what do I do to change it?

I‘m a weird mix of introvert and extrovert. I feel like showing up and have fun with people, then I get drained easily or take on bad energies very fast.

For so long I’ve been hiding but since my first Saturn return I’ve been pushed to show up in the world.

I‘d like to enjoy exposure more instead of enduring it, and build me community life but I don’t know how. which aspects should I pay attention to ?

I feel like everything I try to work towards and achieve gives me some kinda of setback or fight. ESPECIALLY medically. Ive had a doctor's office have to cancel appointments on me 3 times because because they double booked, Ive had my primary straight up leave the practice and no one told me. No one calls me back or reaches out ever. Meanwhike my best friend has doctors believe her and worry more about her presenting issues than she does. Its funny because she has a Pisces Mercury so Id think it would impair her communication? I know theres more to the chart then just one aspect but this also happens to me in other areas of my life so I really wonder what it is in my chart that just seems to be fighting against me! Another thing too is if I ever get cocky or a little full of myself about anything its like something happens almost same or next day to put me in my place 😂😂 I cant get away with anything. Any input would be seriously appreciated!

I've always felt like I spend more time in my own head than in the outside world. I daydream a lot, overthink things, and often feel disconnected from other people. I also don't communicate my thoughts and opinions great by speech even though I've been told I should have placements that make me a good communicator. Is there anything in my birth chart that could indicate why I'm like this? I'd love to hear your interpretations, I'm very new to astrology.

All my life even when I was as young as 8, I always put myself down quickly and easily. If I felt left out, if I was being watched to perform a task (especially if I couldn't do it as complete as I wanted to), or failing to perform the task, being looked at in general, not feeling like I'm enough for the things I wished for when it's finally granted to me, incredibly avoidant when I have to talk to new people, hiding a lot, etc.

I feel like its the biggest reoccuring obstacle i have in my life, I'm going to college, need to get a job but I just can't get myself socialize or to put myself out there, but I know its desperately need to and want to.

Edit: Thank you all for the replies! It means a lot to me, I try to study astrology as much as I can but it's a slow process for me to understand.

I have a T-square with my Capricorn sun, Libra jupiter, and Cancer saturn. Soon, the Aries saturn transit will be aspecting all of my T-square, thus being the last leg. What are the themes of a transit that squares/provides the last leg to my natal T-square?

I know that the moon is how you process emotions internally and how you react to things and make descions etc. With a Capricorn Moon I supposedly make decisions with logic and consider all the pros and cons. And process my emotions logically and analytically. I'm supposed to have "natural leader insticts" and thrive or structure and organization. None of these ring true for me. I hate being in charge, I would rather have someone tell me what to do,

I am often in decision paralysis bcs I'm worried about how it will make me feel or make other's feel, and my emotions take over almost completely when I'm upset or excited. There is no logical processing and it makes me impulsive. I'm also often disorganized in my life. I feel like it also contradicts a lot of the other emotional signs in my chart like my Cancer Sun or Pisces Ascendent. If anyone could help me understand why I feel in direct contradiction with such an important sign I would be very grateful.

Basically the title. I don’t think my sun sign as a Leo describes me at all, and I don’t know enough about this to know what in the chart is the cause. The biggest point is the whole Leo stereotype of loving attention, outgoing, performative, dramatic.
I’ve kind of always hated being the center of attention. Never liked my picture being taken, always had debilitation stage fright, deep fear of public speaking.
I recall a time as a child I cried when a group of friends sang happy birthday to me because it made me so uncomfortable.
I could go on about examples, and I feel it’s important to note that despite the fears and anxiety around it, I do still perform. In high school I was in choir, band, musicals. And today even, I gig as a duo with my wife. I would just prefer it if at a gig we could just show up, perform, and leave. People saying we did a good job, or any kind of audience interaction is unwanted.
What in the chart is making none of the Leo sun come out?

From what I understand about astrology, my chart looks like I’d be a very fun, outgoing, sociable person, but I don’t feel that way. I want to have a rich social life and make meaningful connections, I think I have interesting ideas, and that I’m creative and funny, and I love engaging in conversations. But I’ve always felt very socially anxious, constantly fixated on how I am perceived. I love the concept of community, but everywhere I go, I struggle to feel as though I belong, and I fear that people pretend to like me but actually don’t. I’m very sensitive to rejection so it’s possible I look too deeply into subtle shifts in others, and I internalize that. I have a handful of long lasting friendships, I am close with some family members as well, but even with my innermost circle, I can’t really feel at ease. I’m always suspicious that others are suspicious of me. A lot of what I’ve learned about astrology describes me as someone I want to be, but feel I am not. Do any of my placements indicate why that is? What stands out in my chart that I could reflect on? Where will I find a sense of belonging?

hello everyone! i hope you’re having a great day.

my understanding of astrology leads me to see that my chart makes me out to be an expressive, personable, and “fun” individual, and this is true to my knowledge. i am good at bringing people together, building community, and being a reliable friend. this is a gift, a privilege, and an honor—i truly love that i can make others happy, and it’s something that brings me pride and joy as well.

however, i lack emotional depth and intimacy in my relationships though it is something i crave. friends that introduce to each other end up becoming closer to each other than they are to me. i catch myself thinking “i wish i was someone’s first choice” often. this thought used to be accompanied by resentment and despair, but it’s now more of a sad friend that has seen me through the years. and of course, this is not a singular experience—i’m sure everyone has felt this way before!

are there any parts of my chart that may indicate why 1) i crave emotional intimacy so deeply, and 2) why i feel it has evaded me thus far?

birth time source: birth certificate of live birth (hospital-issued)

Does anything in my chart indicate why I feel so intense so often and always so hard on myself, never sure what to do ? Life just feels like an unending uphill battle.

Since Jupiter is in my 12th house, I’ve struggled a lot with understanding what this drives me towards, and I feel like it just makes it hard for me to pursue my goals and make tangible progress, because I’m so stuck in my head. And when I look for information on Jupiter in the 12th house I just get “guardian Angel placement” which sounds nice, but I want to hear the bad. If anyone has resources to point me to, that would be appreciated :,) thank you.

Looking at my chart, I have a ton of fire placements, but I still feel like I’m a very passive person.

I have a hard time finishing what I start. I’m a huge people pleaser, even with strangers. I let people walk all over me or push me aside, and I struggle to be assertive or actually take action.

It feels like I’m stuck in analysis mode all the time. I overthink everything, but I almost never follow through. Most of my ideas never become actions.

What’s weird is that I’m the complete opposite with the people I’m closest to. Around friends and family, I can be pretty aggressive or confrontational.

Could this be related to my Mars, or is there another specific placement or aspect that would better explain this pattern?

So, I have (true) white moon selena in virgo 3th house (whole house) and i found out that waldemath, the ghost moon, is next to selena... which is tricky....??

White moon selena is a placements where you re supposed to be blessed/protected. On the other hand, waldemath tell where you are at your lowest. so those two are close each other which could mean at the bottom i am being held? can i be shit person and get away from it?

waldemath is a cloud of dust that is orbiting earth. this so called ghost moon, hypothetical second moon, is not proven to exist by science, but still has it symbolic meaning in astrology. ( But how it is even located in chart if there is not physical body to be found? ) Does anyone have more to tell or fix about waldemath ?

btw, you can find your lilith/selena/waldemath by using astroseek tools.

thank you

edit. I am only here to learn these nuance, not being too serious about this. :D

i also forget to mention why i was interested in waldemath / white moon selena in the first place: i have mild level learning difficulties that include dyslexia (reading difficult) and dysphasia (speaking and understanding difficult), and even some people had used it againts me, those disabilities also have give me joy, since i dont have filter in my brain to think through words.

-> beside waldemath / white moon selena my 3rd house is empty, so i have to look other placements to find a glue of my disabilities, and i can see some difficulties with mercury since it sit with saturn bound. but does it explain all? is there some other indicates? could white moon selena/waldemath give another layer to this?