OA Lang ba ako sa pag-ooverthink ng pagiging playful ni hubby?
I just need to get your insights on whether my feelings are valid or if I’m just overthinking this.
My husband is usually quiet around new people, but once he gets comfortable, he becomes very playful and loves to tease. It’s never offensive, just lighthearted banter.
Our friend group is a mix of married couples and single people. Lately, I’ve noticed he’s been teasing one of our friends a lot more than usual. For example, if we need someone to volunteer for an activity, he’ll immediately joke, “Si *girl* daw! Si *girl* na lang!” Or during group dinners, he’ll tease her with, “pang ilang refill na *girl* oh.. Haha!”. To be fair, hindi lang sa kanya. He teases other people in our group, both guys and girls alike.
At first, it didn't bother me because I know him and I know there's zero malice. Ever-since, ganun lang talaga siya sa friends and even family. But lately, it has started to feel a bit off for me. She is a single woman, and the frequency of his teasing towards her seems to be increasing (maybe because we've been hanging out more lately). This actually makes me think about the other guys in our group, may mga banters and they joke around a lot too but none of them ever tease me or target me.
Because of this dynamic, I’ve also started overthinking his behavior outside our circle. It makes me wonder how he is at work. If he’s this playful and teasing with other women right in front of me, how much more when I’m not around and he’s with his female co-workers?
I know my husband and I believe it's completely without malice, but I just can't shake off this uncomfortable feeling. So, OA lang ba ako and should I just brush this off, or is it valid to feel off about this?
Gusto ko muna makuha ang perspective niyo before I talk to him and tell him how it makes me feel.