How to be attracted to people quickly?
hi guys. i (22F) am entering the phase of my life where i am ready to start building with a partner. I have not been in a relationship before (not for lack of trying lol) but I am putting myself out there! I have an issue though where historically, I have only been able to be intimate with people I’ve known for a very long period of time (like 3+ years). I would like for this not to be the case anymore. I can find new people aesthetically attractive, but if they were to ask to kiss me or something, something in me is unable to reciporcate that attraction. so now I go on a bunch of dates that go really well! but eventually the guys want more, and I just can’t meet them there-even if they’re awesome. how can I fix this?
edit: no SA trauma. and I don’t think I’m asexual as I do experience CRAZY sexual attraction, it’s just limited to those people who I’ve known for 3+ years