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I’m a step mom to a 10yr old and 13yr old.
They spent the night with their grandparents last night, we picked them up this morning. They had breakfast at 845-9am. We picked them up around 11am and noticed they had snacks (chips, fruit snacks, crackers, etc). We did not stop for lunch, as they said they had snacks and weren’t hungry.
My husband and I ate breakfast around like 930ish. We drove out to their mom’s house to pick something up, and kept the kids with us because we were trying to spend as much time as possible and she was gonna be out by our home when it was time for them to go back. She had plans at a friend’s home and never quite gave me a timeline of when she wanted to meet.
At 4:50 she said she got to her friend’s house. At 6pm I went to the kitchen to start fixing dinner. At 6:05, she calls saying to meet her at the end of our road. So I loaded kids up and took them. When she pulled away, the kids I guess told her that we hadn’t had dinner yet. She called me very peeved that they hadn’t eaten yet. I informed her that I was literally in the kitchen about to start cooking when she called. She kept saying “ok. Okay I guess I’ll get them food”. I told her I was literally in the process of fixing dinner, and she had called. She seemed extremely upset and said “okay” again and hung up.
I guess I’m trying to figure out if I’m
In the wrong here. She says she normally feeds them at 5pm on Sunday nights that she has them. we hadn’t even been home an hour and both kids had showered as well as helped me and my husband with chores around the house (feeding animals-goats, dogs, cat).
Am I in the wrong here for being truly confused as to why she is upset? It’s not like we were sitting around at home all day. We had errands to run, things to do. She’s also upset that the grandparents (my in laws) had them on our parenting time. (She doesn’t like them and never lets them stay with them on her time, so of course, if they want to stay with grandma and grandpa and it’s our parenting time, we let them.) we weren’t pawning them off, we weren’t trying to avoid them. We literally were just letting them see their grandparents.