Totally lost
I’ve only recently found this subreddit. I can’t express how refreshing - yet disappointing it is to find I’m not alone. Perhaps the “symptoms” of my dead bedroom are different, but I assure you, the result is the same.
I’m 62M. My wife (69F) and I have been together for 38 years, married for 21 years. We were fucking like rabbits until about 18 years ago. My wife developed endometriosis - or perhaps it was finally properly diagnosed. She had a hysterectomy. Since then, she doesn’t enjoy sex. She says it’s uncomfortable for her. She has little (no) interest in satisfying my urges - which is kind of understandable. I cannot - and will not - pressure her into something she doesn’t want to do/enjoy.
Naturally, I jerk off and look at porn/pics, but it doesn’t feel right. I still have needs, but morally, it doesn’t see, right.
For those suggesting “cut and run” - if we divorced now, neither of us would have enough to live any kind of life. We’d both be homeless. We own our apartment, but it’s not enough to split and start again at our age.
I don’t expect an answer here, my story is more to empathise with those who share their stories here. I feel for you. If you’re young enough and can move forward, do it.
Sorry if the ramblings of a “boomer” are too much. I can say that finally being able to talk about this has helped me a little - actually, a lot