How successful are you on your nights out? Is gay chad real or a fantasy?
Sometimes when I'm hitting the bar or clubs I can strike out in a night, basically only getting rejections or approached by people I'm less than excited about. I actually think I'm a decent looking guy and this is probably typical for most people. But sometimes it makes me fucking crash out. I imagine the conventionally attractive twink or blond jock who can reach out and procure whoever he likes like adam picking fruit off a vine. The gay world must appear so friendly, so intoxicating, to this person. But does this person actually exist or is it just a fantasy?
My hunch is that gay chad is real, but the affect of starvation/desperation/insecurity the image creates is a product of gay dating and hookup apps. The swipe, the grid, and the map create an impression of frictionless consumption. So when in real life you're consumption is interrupted by the realities of desire and attraction, it can make you feel really deficient, either socially, like you're missing some quality everyone else has, or like a junkie unable to get their fix. Alternatively, it's been like this since Wilde and I'm massively overintellectualizing it. Alternatively, this is just a me thing. Thoughts?