WIBTAB for not wanting to go to my husband’s (28M) friends wedding because it’s the same weekend as our first wedding anniversary and we were planning to take a trip?
My husband (28M) and I (30F) are celebrating our first wedding anniversary later this year. His old friend (29F)from college recently got engaged (which was a surprise and very unexpected since he didn’t even know she was dating someone) and sent a text in their friend GM saying she’s getting married in the fall this year. Being the type A planner I am, I asked him to get the details on where and when since the fall is less than 7 months away and she hasn’t sent save the dates. He found out that it was going to be in MI in October but not a specific date. I have had our wedding anniversary weekend blocked out on our shared calendar for a trip that I’ve been in the process of planning out but have not made any solidified plans other than going to a tropical location. Wanting to book flights and hotels before the prices went up I urged him to get the specific location in MI and the date, come to find out the wedding is the same day as our anniversary.
As a person who loves going to weddings I was a little sad because I knew it was either (A) go to the wedding and celebrate our first wedding anniversary in a location where we’ve never considered going or (B) don’t go and proceed planning our anniversary trip. Wanting to try and make both work, I went ahead and scouted to see what is close to the wedding location so we could maybe make the most of it but there is not anything to do that we are really into. Being further in the north there isn’t any quick flights to any places we are interested in celebrating our anniversary. I know my husband will feel guilty for not going to her wedding since she traveled to come to ours. I don’t care that she’s getting married on the same day as our wedding anniversary but I don’t feel like we have to go to her wedding since we planned doing some sort of tropical getaway for our first anniversary and unfortunately we have other plans mapped out to where costs will prevent us from doing both things separate weekends. AITA for not wanting to go to her wedding and instead have our first anniversary trip where we wanted to go?