Bridal Shower / Wedding Gift
This is probably a stupid question, but I haven’t been in this situation before so wanted to ask others who might know.
My SIL (husband’s sister) is getting married at the end of June. They are going out of state to get married. It will be just them, no friends or family (not judging this at all btw).
I know SIL has talked to my husband about having a party when they get back to celebrate their marriage, but there is no date for that yet.
I got an invite on FB to SIL’s bridal shower. Unfortunately, I can’t go as I already have plans for that day. In the invite, they are asking for money and/or gift cards.
I’m probably overthinking this but my question is : Do I still give a gift for the bridal shower if I’m unable to attend? Or save the gift for when they have their party? Or a gift for both?? Worried that if I don’t get a gift for the bridal shower and if they don’t have a party (still haven’t heard a thing if the party is happening or not) that I will look bad for not giving them a gift for the shower.
I’ve never been to a bridal party, so I didn’t know the etiquette. We were definitely planning on giving money for the party if/when it happens.