concerned for my grandma and don’t know when to intervene
I (23f) live about 2 hours from my grandma (78f), we are planning a trip to see my dad (my grandma and dad have had a bad relationship in the past but we just saw him 3 months ago and everything was fine). Anyways she can’t remember that we saw him 3 months ago and is insisting that we don’t stay with him even though I asked him and he said it was ok. I’m really worried that she is starting to decline and I don’t know when or how to make sure she’s ok. She comes down to see me every 2 weeks or so and I worry so much about her driving. She also will ask you the same questions over and over again like ask me about my friend several times in one conversation. She lives with her boyfriend of 15 or so years and he seems to be fine just immobile for the most part.
When should I start to intervene and when should I be very concerned about her driving? She seems to remember events very well and have a good long term memory so she’s really good at remembering where she is and where she is going as long as she frequented those places for a long time otherwise she gets lost. I’m extremely concerned but I also never dealt with this before and don’t know what steps I can take to make things easier for her. Please help me out.