Seeking advice for mother with dementia in extreme pain due to spine deformity.
Mom is in memory care with fairly advanced dementia. 87 years old. She has had back problems she refused to address for 30+ years. Now its so bad shes in agony and needs surgery but, she prob wouldnt survive recovery. We tried epidural injections with zero relief. We tried a mild pain med and she fell twice. Im her poa and there is no other family. It all falls on me and its really taking its toll.
If the roles were reversed, I would just take the pills and let whatever happens happen but Im really struggling with the decision. Made an appointment today with a counselor for myself.
Any thoughts appreciated.