u/Megan_on

I have an Aunt that has been nothing but horrific to everyone in the family, to the point that we have all cut her off. She stays close to my Grandma.

Backstory, when my grandma was well, we went out to dinner and she was very happy to be dating this man she reconnected with from high school. We had such a good conversation about all aspects of life in general. Honestly, I can't remember how many years ago that was. I want to say at least 8. My grandma moved out of the country and told me "you're getting my mattress, you have a bad back" It was a brand new mattress, and it's just now wearing down.

I planned a whole dinner with her new beau at my aunts house. I had only been there once, got lost and didn't have service. I finally made my way to her house. My aunt was extremely annoyed and just threw everything i bought in the oven. I bought multiple pre-made Costco meals, dessert, and picked up 3 types of beer. I really put an effort into this dinner for everyone, but it was special for my grandma and her new fiance. I was so happy for her. The whole dinner plan was a huge blow to me, as I planned everything, bought everything and rushed to get there after work as fast as I could.

My grandma's fiance seemed nice. But this was only the second time I had met him. He proceeded to talk about himself and his family the whole time . He's never asked one thing about me. He still has no regard for me or anyone in our family besides my awful aunt, to this day. He only knows my name because I call my Grandmas cell phone.

I got my esthetics license and my grandma came into town and asked for a Chem peel. I happily obliged and afterward she said she was taking the bus back to the place she was staying at (husband's cousin, a town over) i looked up the bus line and there was no bus to take her there. I told her I would drive her and she was thankful. I pulled up and her husband was walking to the mailbox. He didn't look at either of us. He pretends I dont exist. This incident was 4 years ago. That was the last time I saw her. They were out of the country, but they are now in Utah.

My aunt started texting me and saying I dont care about her and that my mom (her sister) is a bitch and just because I dont believe it, doesn't mean it isn't true. I told her to leave me alone, that she hurt me. She texted me again after I called my Gradnma, balling my eyes out because I was so upset with the interaction with my aunt. My aunt then texted me again saying I am quite the little manipulator. I just texted her saying I will never NOT be in my Moms corner. I also told her I am so hurt by her behavior towards me not only as an adult, but as a child my brother and I left her house crying on many occasions.

Funny thing is, my aunt has 2 daughters. They both finally cut her off just last year. They came to our house for Christmas for the first time in about 6 to 7 years? Maybe longer. My face hurt from smiling. It was a beautiful experience. We didn't talk about her. We knew the elephant in the room and chose to ignore it. They are both married and doing well, thankfully.

The problem is my aunt is feeding whatever information into my grandmas husband's head, not like he cares about us anyway, but its worse because my Grandma is obviously struggling with dementia. I have limited access to talking to my grandma. My Mom has checked out completely. She has childhood wounds that weren't resolved before the dementia.

I just want to see my Grandma. I love her so much. Even if I fly there to see her, I'm not sure how it will go.

I am terrified of her husband, I dont have the money to fly there, and I am battling my Mom with her demons to go there with me. She said she will go, bit im unsure of her husband's reaction. He doesn't know us at all. I can't wait anymore. I need to go. I told her I would write her a letter and I didnt because I knew her pos narcissistic husband would have to read it to her, if he would even do that. I truly have no clue but from what I've learned, I could see him throwing the letter away.

My family was so close when I was young. It was the get togethers you see in movies.

This is just a smidgen of whats happened. I have three aunts. So youve learned about the first one. My other aunt is in jail, and the other is barely hanging on with alcoholism.

I just want to see my Grandma so badly. Any tips on how to fund a flight to see her? I dont know how much time she has left.

I tried to edit this as best I could. I apologize kf this is chaotic, but my brain is trying to type this out and especially without getting too deep. This is one of the hardest situations I've been through.

Thanks for reading and offering advice.

I am so fatigued that I can't stay awake. My body is very sore. I spent 25 minutes stretching and then I did about 4 sets of 10 hip aductors and 3 sets of 10 assisted pull ups. I don't feel like I did much of anything. I should mention ai do have fibromyalgia, but this level of exhaustion seems extreme. I made a protein bowl when I got home, had some shots of ginger and turmeric, did a few things around the house and went to bed.

Looking back on our friendship, she was never 100% in my corner. She was judging and gossiping about me behind my back for years. I always try to see the best in people and it really messed with me. Almost a year later, it still does. I remember her saying she spent time with her neighbor cursing people. I believe she has done this to me, as I completely cut her off due to her negative, dark energy. How would you go about cleansing this? I've seen a few suggestions on other groups but I'm just so new to this that I am wanting to stop this curse and protect myself. I am an empath and have been taken advantage of the majority of my life. Is it a ritual I do consistently or just something I do once?

Thank you in advance for your insights and advice ❤️

I had one probably 15 years ago... so painful that I went to the ER. They drained and packed it.... now after all these years later, I am in so much pain. I go to the gym more, so its on and off. I am very hygienic and wash it properly. I don't want another surgery.... any other pieces of advice are greatly appreciated

The school I went to is about 25 minutes away from my house and they are just pumping out new potential estheticians constantly. I don't have the funds to go solo. I just keep watching so many people get their license and having everything set up for them from family/spouse/inheritance. Not to mention a couple girls I know of in the area that do services like lashes out of their big beautiful homes because they get away with not being licensed and they start getting regular clients.

I'm tired. Between the economy, lack of money, and coming from a family where I'm the only person that went to college twice... money would solve a lot of my issues and insecurities being able to pursue my dream career. 😔