u/plesdes19

I've been having a pretty bad time dealing and managing my BPD for a bit, but I've been okay enough this week. Well, I kind of felt in the edge of a split all day, but I still decided to make a post in a subreddit genuinely asking for advice about an issue some family members are facing... But I kept getting down voted and people replying to me as if I'm the issue or an idiot for even suggesting such things. Or at least that's what it felt like. To most it's probably nothing, but to me, it just feels like another rock slide to land on the Boulder of things I'm already shouldering. I know that in a couple days, heck probably a few hours I'll be over it... But right now I'm at the point of tears, feeling so stupid, wanting to die, and just feeling like everything bad ever said about me or that I've thought is correct and I am a dumb useless idiot who doesn't even know when to leave things be. I know I'll be alright soon, I just feel stupid for even making the post. Or maybe I'm just stupid for thinking internet strangers would care or be kind when commenting? idk, I'm trying so hard to keep everything together and keep pushing forward, but all this tiny things feel like getting hit by a truck over and over, and it's so hard to keep moving forward.

Edit: I'm not seeking advice, just venting

My mom (59) and brother (25) both work at the same company, but different departments. There is an older problematic, two faced, coworker(cw) who has been moved around multiple times and is now in my brother's department. CW is very friendly and nice to my mother, but not my brother. She will mock him and say derogatory or insulting things about him to others, but never to him. 2 people who have witnessed this are either my mom or my brother's friends. There have also been other witnesses to CW belittling him or others (he's autistic and most of the people she badmouths are too or just neurodivergent) however because she (cw) believes she's buddies with a higher ups she thinks she's untouchable. My mother does not want to escalate this. She believes that because my brother hasn't complained, and she's been friendly towards her there is no reason to. My brother hasn't mentioned anything yet, and honestly I'm not 100% sure he knows everything she's been saying about him. 2 coworkers say if my mom or brother go to HR they'll support them, another coworker believes this should be left alone and ignored because she's not really affecting anyone yet. I believe someone should bring this up to HR, but I don't work there so I don't know the dynamics or work climate there. Should my mom or brother say something? Or should this be left alone for now?