u/ponerrag

I’m not much of a beach goer myself even though I live near a relatively okay beach, maybe cause I’m sort of an apathetic guy sometimes, but that’s besides point, if I end up getting into a situation where people want to hang out or go to the beach I’m fine with it even if I’m not crazy for it.

Now there’s growing number of a types that I’ve been running into lately that make it a big deal the fact that they don’t like going to the beach. I mean If you don’t like going it’s fine, but if you go anything above 2 or 3 minutes explaining that going to the beach sucks, that there’s nothing special about it and that you get it why is a big deal for people… then I’ll think you are trying to make a point and I’ll judge you a little bit.

Yea yea yea there’s many people, sand gets everywhere, sun is too hot, finding parking sucks, whatever, but dude none of those are groundbreaking observations, everyone who goes to the beach already knows all of that for hell sake.

This is why it always comes across as if they're trying to make a deeper point than simply “not like it” and no buddy, you haven’t figured out something everyone else is too basic to notice and no, hating the beach doesn’t make you unique, because millions of people don't like the beach and  tt's one of the most common opinions you could have.

If anything, what’ll strike me about these folks is that if a little sand, some sunlight, and being around other people is enough to ruin your entire day, bro I can only imagine what you're like when something actually inconvenient happens, and compadre that’s someone unbearable to be around.

 

Look I have watched hundreds of them  and never never once looked away, because I can’t get past the nature of what is being offered… it‘s a stranger who does not know my name is taking time to tell me specifically how not to die, she has practiced this for me, in a room somewhere.

Yes I know planes are safe but the thought of being suspended in a pressure tank fitted with wings still makes me thing that all safety procedure might be just futile at some point, so perhaps it’s the futileness of the safety demonstration what touches me… maybe part of my brain has always received it that way and I stopped correcting that part a long time ago because I don't think I'm doing anything wrong, I watch her hands pointing at the exit, her face, I watch her fragile humanity explaining an attempt to provide a sense of safety in an environment where everything can go wrong at some point.

 I try to communicate with my attention alone that I am here and that I am listening,, that I am probably the only person in this cabin who is truly present with her in this moment… and I think on some level she can feel that. The oxygen mask is where I feel it most “Place your own mask before assisting others” she is looking somewhere above our heads when she says it, and I am looking directly at her, and for a moment I feel closer to her than I do to most people I have known for years. She is telling me how to survive, and that folks is, really, quite a lot and I always say thank you when I board and I mean a real one, held a half second too long.

Granted most of them look a bit startled which I understand. But One attendant many years ago held my gaze back just for a moment, I have thought about her on every flight since, when the cabin dims and the engines settle in their roar and we are all suspended together in the dark trusting each other completely and close than we would ever choose to be on ground.

I really have never told anyone this and I am aware that changes nothing.

I don’t know if this is midlife crisis symptom but this might fit here, I want to get it out at any rate. A few months ago I turned 40 and had been feeling relatively fine and normal since I’ve reason but just a few weeks after my birthday I started to notice that I have “old man” movements and overall I’m way slower.

Unsurprisingly this has to be an age thing and of being a father and a husband but still I’m a bit astonished, like this is my baseline energy level from now on. I used to be brisk in my movements, normal stuff like stand up and grabbing something from a shelf or answer the phone, and even startled my wife or child because I’d stand up suddenly to grab to get something for example.

Maybe I’m tired or not sleeping too well, but overall is as if in my mind I don’t feel like doing things as quickly as before and this has surprised me, because I start to realize how age comes inevitably, and more stunningly,  how age (at least for me) seems to just kick in from one literal month to the other, because it really feels as if a switch had been turned in my body.

Other thing that I’ve noticed is how now I’m not able to “filter out” or aisle or isolate sounds as well as before, specially when other people are talking, or when there’s people talking on a video, tv, or radio. I’m not able to just filter it and not pay attention now, now my mind hears and is processing it it even when I’m trying to concentrate in work at hand for example and if somebody is saying something questionable or silly I just can’t ignore it and move on, and this puts some tension in me that I don’t need.

Well that’s it, thank you if you read this, I needed to vent it out.

Best,

I find it strange that way we treat a trash. Lets say I leave a chair in my garage, it's mine, then if I leave it on the porch, mine still, if I put that same chair into a container or the curb on the place I live for the collection tomorrow morning, we most act as if nobody is sure who owns it anymore.

The reason being I feel this feels wrong is that most dont behave as if discarded things are truly ownerless, because for example imagine if your neighbor routinely searched through your trash, catalogued what they found, or carried certain items away , then of course you will think that something improper has occurred.,

This is odd for me , because it feels like people continue to perceive discarded stuff as still part of them because no doubt people would be more disturbed by a stranger carefully examining their trash than by a stranger learning several facts about them through ordinary conversation.

So by leading then is... If trash is really ownerless the moment it enters a bin, then people should be far less concerned about what happens to it afterward… but idkn imagine learning that someone had been separating your discarded items into categories, noticing patterns over time, even correctly identifying when you changed brands of toothpaste, when somebody moved into your household, when somebody moved out, when you started a diet,  absolutely most people would find that unsettling,

What is think is the strangest is that none of those observations require access to a person's home, no, they require access only to objects the person supposedly abandoned.

For conclusion being is that a trash bin is the single place where we expect to surrender responsibility but still we keeping a feel of “ownership” so we say the object is no longer ours, yet we think that others should only interact with it as we want… so its a very peculiar category of property… is mine enough that your interest bothers me, but not mine enough that I want it back. 

I’m not sure if I’m a bit disappointed or maybe worried… there’s a sub called the 10thdentist and I’m a bit puzzled because I’ve posted a few times opinions there, and recently some of my posts caught fire and are still “apparently raging” but I’m a perplexed about the comments I receive.

These posts I wrote are some “intense” opinions on very very petty or trivial topics with (admitting it) questionable argumentation lines but really harmless at the end, and I was bit surprised they made it to the top, firstly thinking it was due a misinterpretation of my writing, being English not my first language.

They’ve some thousands comments now…  but looking at them closer most of them  they seem of with the same tone and word length and they look indeed as if they just took the title of the post and parsed through an AI or something and spouted almost the exact comment rephrased or paraphrased over and over

I saw something similar in someone else’s posts in another sub, and they were really exited that their thread was getting a lot of comments, but I was told it was just this website user’s style in that they sound at times actually the same, but I’m doubting it. This a multi-million strong forum but wtf is these numbers are probably mostly bots? Which I don’t think is hard to believe as there are now bot farms that actually “mature” their bot accounts for many years to make them look “credible”.

The other argument which is equally disturbing being that we are actually “taught” to learn to write like these AIs or Bots and many have adopted their style and cadence, but fucking hell as if things arent’ already blurred enough as to distinguish slop or real people or real information. In fact I’m not even sure if there’s a fucking point of posting this here if both things are the real deal

 

There’s a stereotype from where I live which says “large mug, larger nuisance” or something like that. I don’t think is totally true in most cases,though . But

If someone brings to work a very large mug or tumbler (be it coffee or water it’s not relevant) then I’d be cautious of that person, at any rate.

It’s fine to bring something small from home, but the bigger the item (or number of) you bringing from your private space to some shared or “public” space, the more it’s signaling to me that the person wants to turn the public space into an extension of their private space and no one wants to deal with that, because mannerisms and habits that should be reserved to your private space will inevitable seep out.

Most laid back and easy going coworkers I’d had meet always carry nothing or a few items to work…I’d extend my caution to anyone bringing a lot of stuff to the office (or classroom, or any shared space), because I know this is going to be a difficult person to deal with eventually.

I say this because it is evident that this is a person who isn’t comfortable at another place which is not their home, so they try to “bring home” to the shared space to offset that, but such discomfort will inevitable manifest in undesirable ways in the day to day interaction, let’s say with other coworkers, colleague students, or even customers if it’s a business... the discomfort tends to externalize and man it shows up as territorial behavior, they are unusually sensitivite to minor inconveniences, and they develop a tendency to treat common areas as if they belong partially to them.

I say a disctinction should be made and applied because people are bringing private space behaviour to shared spaces and and once enough people do that the shared environment becomes a set of competing domestic territories which occupy the same building and that sucks

 

It’d be better if colleges fully leaned into the casino mechanics… saying this here because these are life altering amounts of money you pay based on supposedly projected future earnings, so if this is how they present it then degrees should absolutely function more like regulated wagers

At the minimum every degree should have live odds, risk ratings, payout projections, and employability spreads with them... like “Nursing sitting at safe long-term returns,” meanwhile some other majors looking like high volatile meme stocks with terrible payout history, idkn… master’s in postcolonial studies downgraded to junk-bond status after weak market performance” or something like that at the least

In this I mean universities should absolutely have to buy into the pot too, because if graduates consistently bust out financially, the school loses money alongside them instead of cashing out upfront and disappearing into the night like a casino that already cleaned the tables.

there should even be degree parlays, tuition insurance maybe some kinda buyback system if your diploma performs like a I don’t know, pennystock for five straight years.

I say this right now and fair enough because the only people allowed to lose the bet are the students, which is fucking insane .

I think farting in public don’t deserve the reaction they usually get because most farts genuinely don’t even smell that bad… yet is treated like some defect of character when is just another natural body function like sneezing, coughing, hiccuping or even burping and all have socially accepted responses, but passing gas is still verboten, and of course obviously time and place matters, but the average fart (3 seconds at the most) dissipates immediately but if you compare it to sneezing now, the latter is objectively more concerning because is literally launching warm biological particles into the air at high speed maybe even spreading illness and we still politely go “bless you.”

I’m not saying you should rip a good one in an elevator on purpose without expecting a reaction, but still. I think there should even be casual and normalized phrases for farts too, like “all good” “carry on,” or “fair enough” because is just a natural function and expression of the body… the dramatic reaction is usually more uncomfortable than the actual fart.

If you roll out in pajamas it’s essentially you announcing your private sphere has no perimeter, like your bedroom done annexed the sidewalk… public space runs on a quiet social contract of manners, hygiene, or some evidence of education in how to present yourself, and if you pajamas out it’s essentially signaling that you ain’t transitioning modes, and everyone has to deal with your unfiltered habitat, everyone clock that.

So I don’t think at all it’s an “aesthetics” issue because it implies the behavioral standards of your private sphere, which bro, if you are one of them, no doubt has to be low hygiene thresholds, zero presentation discipline are now portable and people sense that, even if they can’t articulate it.