u/prawdaganda

Heya, 28 year old womanchild here. I made my first post about 6 weeks ago and had a few interesting conversations, but no cigar, so I’m trying again and improving my post to be more specific - I'm here for quality, not quantity :) If you sent a message last time but I didn’t reply, I was either already overwhelmed with messages or you sent something too low effort, so feel free to try again (just don’t even bother writing if you’re only going to say something along the lines of: “Hi I’m 30/M, want to chat?” You know a lot about me from this post, so when contacting me, I expect some kind of actual introduction or references to what I’ve written.)

I'm from England but have spent most of my adult life learning languages and living abroad, I really don’t identify with the modern UK and ultimately don’t fit into any nationality box too well - I think in some ways I align with Eastern Europe and I’ve actually been told several times that I look Polish or Russian, but really I’m too smiley and allergic to grey and Ikea furniture to pass as one of them :)

It’s always a challenge to try to convey your personality in a few paragraphs that will help people ascertain well enough if we’re on similar wavelengths, but here we go: I'm INTJ and definitely a deep thinker (some may say over-thinker, but let’s think (deeply) positive;)). Whilst I find politics generally tiresome, it is unfortunately unavoidable these days, so to quickly address: I have mixed views from both sides of the spectrum (and find the whole monolithic left/right concept a frankly idiotic false dichotomy), but I’m definitely more socially conservative and that also applies for my ideal relationship dynamic - I love traditional ideals of femininity and masculinity, the way they compliment each other and can be brought out in each other within the intimacy of a trusting, healthy, supportive relationship to create that beautiful yin-yang. Also, to get it out of the way off the bat, I really want to grow with my partner and am looking for a committed monogamous lifelong relationship on the basis of marriage, so if you’re not looking to say vows, we won’t work out :)

For a little more about my personality: I am colourful, playful, enthusiastic, soft, very affectionate, aesthetics-oriented, and I have a big childish streak - I’ll cry over videos of baby seals, pepper my chats with cute stickers, put glittery Ditto thumbcaps on my lilac handheld, and totally get excited over going for ice-cream. Also, I have a business selling women’s vintage and niche clothing, so I always have all sorts of interesting pieces at hand and love swanning around in princessy ballgowns, Indian lehengas with 10-meter flair, velvet full-length opera coats, German folk dresses, etc :) When I leave the house I’m slightly less conspicuous though, don’t worry ;)

Other appearance stuff you can mostly see in the picture and video, but a quick rundown: I'm 5'7, slim, and I have no tattoos or piercings apart from in ears. I’m pale and do what I can to keep it that way, so walking around with a parasol is the norm for me :) I do lots of skincare and anti-aging stuff, but despite my general interest in beauty stuff, I prefer a rather natural look with minimal make-up and I’d never have fake lashes or nails, have never dyed my hair, etc.

For online habits: I don't have any social media apart from Reddit, but even then, my subs are all language or niche-hobby related. I spent my teenagerhood totally online playing lots of games and ended up studying IT, so I have general knowledge about all that side of life, but really don't keep up with it anymore. I realise the irony considering where I’m writing this, but I guess I’m spiritually some kind of neo-luddite who thinks technology should have stopped progressing at the flip-phone :) On a semi-related note, I don’t watch many films or series in general, but when I do, I find myself going back to just re-watch (and to a lesser extent, re-play) old things I’ve enjoyed before because the mass of new media is not only overwhelming, but also mostly terrible, and I’m just not interested in filtering.

My biggest, most consistent interest and passion in life has been languages (Polish, Japanese, Russian, Spanish, Mandarin, und in letzter Zeit ein bisschen Deutsch) and I’d love to find someone else who is not monolingual, but I can certainly compromise on that. I know the language thing is something unusual and interesting, but I politely request that you don’t just ask about them/how I’ve learnt in the first message as basically everyone does and it’s kind of a long story to keep explaining ;D For those who wish to know though, the very much truncated story is that I’m self-taught as an adult mainly using Anki and virtual immersion, and that my main motivation is just loving languages rather than needing them for my occupation.

Apart from that, I'm interested in things like evolutionary psychology, consciousness, and various other esoteric topics that I cycle through. I regularly have obsessive phases where I immerse myself briefly in a topic ranging from typewriters to North Korean society to prepper-style survival methods to weird medical stories to whatever. As an example of some of the randomness and breadth of my tastes, I’m currently reading three books in various languages about the sexual lives of popes, Shackleton’s voyage, and negative philosophy about the burden of being conscious :’)

Sooo, apart from some things I’ve already alluded to above, what I would like for you is to be healthy mentally and physically, emotionally mature, gentlemanly and protective, confident, not chronically online, older than me, have real passions and interests outside of fulfilling biological needs or passive media consumption (i.e. eating and videogames do not count). I really need you to have an active inner life as stimulating conversations are my lifeblood, whilst smalltalk is a chore :) Someone who is playful and, like me, able to go from a serious conversation about the nature of reality to some incredibly stupid in-joke reference in a split second would also be ideal :D

You can be from basically anywhere (and I can relocate to anywhere, for future reference) but especially if you’re further away and meeting quickly is not feasible, you have to put some effort into being active online once things get going - I’m not expecting constant communication all the time as of course we both have real lives and other commitments, but one message a day and lots of “sorry I’m too busy/tired to write back” doesn’t make me feel like I have even virtual companionship - I want both of us to be enthusiastic about each other. Also I like sending voice notes, so if you’re into that, that’s a plus :)

If you’ve been reading all of this and thinking we might be a good fit, then your reward for getting this far is a weird little intro video I did like it’s the 00’s on OKCupid :D No filter, no make-up. Password is ‘pingu’ https://disk.yandex.com/i/NuWpNF1esrRNyA

P.S. If for some reason a girl is reading this and thinks I sound interesting, I’m always looking for new friends too, so don’t be shy to get in touch :))