Husband not very religious
Hello I’m 30F and I’ve been married to my husband 36M for 4 years. We were a love marriage and he is a wonderful man. When we got married, I was not very religious - I do wear hijab, but I would pray only occasionally, fast for maybe 50% of ramadan, go to masjid on Eid and maybe a couple other occasions. My husband was not very religious in terms of praying or attending masjid either. Over the last few years, I have become a little bit more close to my faith in terms of praying etc. My husband has not. It had never bothered me before, but now I sometimes wonder if I would like it better if he prayed more, etc. On top of that, my parents have been hesitant about him since Day 1 because they feel like I should have chosen someone “with stronger deen”, and I feel like their constant skepticism is getting in my head and making me have doubts I never had before.
The thing is - he is a phenomenal husband. He is kind, patient, loving and trustworthy. He makes me a better person every day by reminding me of patience and kindness. He is very charitable and volunteers his time to the poor (he is a doctor and frequently works for free in low income clinics). I love him so much and he is the best person I have ever met. He will pray with me and go to masjid if I ask, but he rarely does on his own accord. He is very interested in Islamic history and traditions and does study those. He is close with my siblings and always very respectful to my parents even though they are harsh to him sometimes. Aside from the religious closeness that has only recently become an issue, he is everything I have ever asked for.
I feel guilty because maybe I should not be bothered by his religiousness since I chose to marry him. Plus, he is so amazing in every other way and I am still not a very strict Muslim so who am I to be judging him? Idk. Any advice would be appreciated.