Not sure if my needs are valid or if I’m seeking chaos
I have a history of relationship trauma, and don’t have much experience in a solid relationship. I often enjoy building emotional intensity early on. I’m aware that’s a sign of my insecurity and I’ve been working on it.
I’m with a guy and we’ve been dating about 2 months. Things are very calm, but I don’t often feel like he asks me questions. I will ask him questions and he will not reciprocate, and when I tell him something he doesn’t really follow up with learning more.
I recently asked him about using bf/gf titles and he said although we are exclusive he feels it’s too soon for those titles. I wouldn’t have any problems using them at this point, so I felt a bit sad.
I am feeling unsure if my feeling of discontent revolves around my craving for chaos because that’s what I’m used to, or if these are valid needs/ worries to have at this point in a relationship.
I could use some perspective because I am having a hard time with knowing how I feel.