u/propanepropan3

Hi all! Two questions

1. what order does the bridal party enter in for the Hindu ceremony- bridesmaids, groomsmen, parents, groom, flower girls?

2. is Tere Liye a good bridal entrance song? I am in love with it and I feel like it’s so emotional. My parents keep insisting everyone is going to laugh at me about it. The lyrics are a bit sad, but I feel like it still encompasses a very powerful love.

We are having a wedding that my parents are primarily paying for - for one day. I will be paying them back. I would have liked to have a wedding a little
Later and do it my way/ pay for myself. They will have many most guests than me. My dad says his friends are more important because they known them for 30 years and I’ve only known my friends for 10-20 years. They get mad at every decision I make and want me to include them in every decision down to the color of decorations.

Anything I tell them, they don’t believe me. They have to ask other people, and then they believe it. My judgment is never trusted.

It’s a two day wedding for both religions. One day his parents are paying and the next they are, with us chipping in on both ends. there are two websites- one for just one wedding and one for two. They have started adding people without asking me to the event with two weddings but sent them the website with one event. 1. They aren’t asking me 2. They should have told me this before invites were sent out and I would have added them. It looks so rude to be like hey, switch over to this website now you’re invited to two things.

The most important thing is they are not listening to our child free rule. It’s on our site. My to be husband’s family and friends are not bring on kids. His cousin’s husband is even staying at home with their child. My friends’ children aren’t coming. We have invited a total of 3 children- 2 are in our bridal party and one is an infant that I want to meet (who isn’t even coming). They added children who already rsvped. Children are being added. I had a melt down and I said no more kids. My mom’s friend’s daughter asked if she could bring her infant. I said no and my dad said I have to let her come and some more kids will come that he is going to ask. I said no. He will not listen. I reached out to her direct and explained the situation kindly and stated that I would still like for her to come! My dad is saying he’s going to message her and tell her to essentially ignore my message and bring her baby. I am to the point where I honestly want to cancel. The rsvp is coming up, but I can’t take it anymore. They are not respecting me and my partner’s wishes. I keep telling my partner I am cancelling the wedding and I can tell he is getting sad about it and saying I want to marry you. How can I have my wedding but avoid more kids and the constant guest change? How can I avoid my every part of my wedding being controlled?

Oh and lastly, they have guests from india starting at their house. I told them that me and my partner won’t be staying there then. We have to come in early but we can’t be in a full house. We also wouldn’t be allowed to sleep in the same room.. even tho we are legally already married. I can’t deal with a ton of people on the week of my wedding. I don’t care who it is. It could be a house full of friends and I would have the same reaction.