girl you literally clocked me immediately 10 seconds ago after I entered the room. there was nothing except my looks that could let you know I'm trans. how tf do people think that's a compliment then? why would you even start the conversation like that?
If your goal is too visually pass then yes you can transition too late. I'm tired of pretending otherwise. Mid 20s is already pushing it for most women imo. If you take too long with starting you're at best cursed to be a third gender freak or at worst remain stuck visibly as your AGAB. No one will see you as you are. You'll never really find happiness unless you manage to abandon that goal. You can still be happy, but for a transition it was too late. All the "I started at 50 and look at me now!" posts are either sneedy honfidence ropefuel or due to surgeries skew the realistic results so much you're just setting up people to be disappointed and depressed even more.
Don't misunderstand that this is in defense of repping. It's still good to get HRT just to prevent things from getting worse than now, because trust me it can always get worse. Also you never really know when it truly is/was too late, some people are a lot luckier than the rest.
Been in an almost year long depressive episode since my third. It made me realise how utterly cooked I am and that so many people lied to me. Stopped all my hobbies, because I don't feel anything anymore. Barely meeting any of my friends, because I can't stop myself from randomly crying. Constantly on edge. Actual physical pain from how unwell I'm doing.
It makes me so sad I'll be a hon forever that I can't enjoy anything. Half of this sub would make fun of me if they saw me. It's so ridiculous considering I was even more cooked when I started hrt, but was feeling good and getting stuff done. I don't have any hope anymore. People still regularly think I just started HRT. Family misgenders me, despite knowing for over 5 years now. Gay men think I am one of them. I can't even bother voice training anymore and regressed back to a 🚬-voice.
The only way I will feel purpose in this life is if I somehow manage to find purpose outside my body
also why do they think I wanna fucking talk with them like we have anything in common?? fuck off
You will regret it hard if you're not already passing
As soon as you complain about HRT being actually useless for yourself they all come out to tell you how their anecdotal evidence is gospel and how you personally are a dumbfuck for not weight cycling and your HRT levels are totally wrong and also you're probably an antisocial basement dweller who has never seen a REAL cis women and that's why you're not passing and should just stop taking HRT altogether if it's so useless.
Like thanks, it's not like I'm actively thinking about detransitioning, because that way I'll at least not feel as crushed anymore for putting in effort that doesn't get me anywhere. Other than that last part, it's also just the same hugboxxy nonsense you hear everywhere packaged in a different tone.
It fucking sucks knowing there is literally nothing I can do except hope that maybe after X more years HRT suddenly kicks in and I'll no longer look like a weird thirdgender "thing" at best or like a man at worst.
This isn't even about passing directly. I just want SOMETHING to see that my body is not male.
sub truly changed
And I don't mean like imaginary cutoff at 18, but like ~25 when your puberty is actually done. It really fucks with my head, because it feels so unfair
feels worse than a chaser. those at least recognise I'm trans
Other post reminded me how I was dumb enough to believe this bullshit when I was 13 or something. Fucking "Eat soy to boost estrogen production" which cissies still believe, but ofc no mention HRT exists