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How exactly is PE eroticized? Some people view it as a sign that their partner is so turned on by them that they can’t control themselves. In that light, it is seen as validating.

The linked podcast explores the subjective nature of PE and why it isn't always a problem in need of treatment. It also addresses what does and doesn't work in terms of treatment in cases where PE becomes a source of distress.

Specifically, 45% of individuals who reported cheating on their partner in the first relationship also reported doing so in the second. By comparison, among those who had not cheated in the first, far fewer (18%) cheated in the second.

Conversely, perceived higher threat to a partner or relationship, attachment avoidance, and attachment anxiety were associated with lower levels of sexual self-disclosure.

Interestingly, the researchers found that relationship length had no significant impact on how much a person disclosed.

Urologists say many, if not most, of the men seeking these injections are average size or larger to begin with.

The procedure only increases girth, not length. And the results are temporary, lasting anywhere from 12-18 months before it needs to be repeated.

A systematic review of 43 studies found consistent differences between women of different sexualities in orgasmic and sexual frequency, as well as sexual duration. However, despite this, there were no consistent differences in sexual satisfaction.

One of the main motivations people described for engaging in these behaviors was emotional regulation, including seeking relief from depression, anxiety, and contempt for the self.

Many mentioned a history of sexual or other abuse, low self-esteem, and hatred of their own body as contributing factors—and they saw self-injury as an effective way of dealing with their psychological issues. For example, some talked about using physical pain as a way of “easing” emotional pain by providing mental escape.

Many also described this behavior as hard to stop—as a compulsion of sorts. They had negative feelings about the self, felt some temporary relief through self-injurious sex, but them felt even worse afterwards because there was an increase in shame and guilt for what they had done. This created a cycle of behavior that then escalated into even more severe harm over time.