my 31m mentally ill brother is financially abusing my parents
To keep it at short as possible, my older brother has had anger/behavior regulation problems since he was a teenager, and there was always friction and constant fighting in the house until he finally moved for school. About 5 years ago, he moved back in after dropping out of his undergrad under the pretense that he would take some time to get back on his feet. My parents noticed his mental health had declined even further, even suspecting something like schizophrenia. He began picking fights again with them, not just verbal but escalating to physical aggression and threats on their life.
I came home on christmas about two years ago and he picked a fight with a man that he thought was stalking(?) our house when he had walked by too close to our fence/too many times(?) while walking his dog. He spent all of christmas break pacing around the house and the backyard looking for this man, (holding a switchblade at times?) and one night finally announced that he'd killed him... which although highlyunlikely is not something we ever verified. As I moved out around the time he moved back in, this was the only time i was witness to an "episode" of his, but his behavior seems generally erratic; antisocial and rare to leave the house, pacing, often irritable and emotionally sensitive, low patience. Its hard to describe
While I've been living away my mom has been hiding a lot of what else has happened from me over the phone, but the situation has only seemingly escalated from there. My parents own a rental home which they repossessed and made into a sort of safe house and which my dad moved into eventually, as their relationship was a big trigger for both of them. My brother is not only a large emotional drain on my aging parents, but an immediate danger to their lives and a huge financial strain. They've basically been in paralysis at what to do as he doesn't see an issue with any of his behaviours, even denies remembering his rage/paranoia episodes, obviously refuses to seek any sort of professional help. I'm at a loss at what i can do myself and how I can help my parents other than beyond the sacrifices I've already made to self-fund my own life and education while he freeloads and abuses them. They refuse to give up on him, kick him out to the street, etc... we are immigrants and have no extended family here, nor does my brother have friends in the area. Ofcourse we all also want a positive outcome for him, for him to learn to manage his emotions and be able to be live independently, but he himself needs to want help
I really dont know... maybe one of you kind with outside perspective or experience has some advice on how to approach this... tia <3