Not sure what to do
My husband (29M) and I (26F) have been together for 6 years, married for 2. We used to be like best friends. Had great chemistry. I was sexually attracted to him. However, over the course of our relationship he has not shown me that he can be a responsible adult. I am in management at my job, so it’s exhausting to come home and play household/project manager. There were definitely signs of this before we got married but I thought he would grow up when we vowed to take care of each other. Hindsight is 20/20.
I am in charge of all of our house chores as well as yard work. The only chores that I have got him to do consistently without me asking (anymore) is cleaning the floors and scooping the litter boxes. I have tried just not doing anything and letting the house go to hell. And when it does get bad he doesn’t lift a finger. If the lawn gets too long, he won’t go mow it.
He refuses to make dentist appointments even though he has a growing cavity on his front tooth. (I feel like he’s waiting for me to do it for him)
He doesn’t cook and won’t try to cook. So that (and grocery shopping) are on me as well. I have been extremely burned out lately and I haven’t been cooking which has resulted in a lot of fast food. Which also sucks because I am the heaviest I have ever been and feel incredibly self conscious.
He has never cheated. I know that he loves me. But I’ve expressed how much this hurts me over the last 6 years and there has been zero change. I am worried I am going to spend the rest of my life unhappy. I want to hang on to our marriage and hope that it changes. But … I’m at the point where I don’t think he’s going to.
I feel like an idiot because there are so many women who have it way harder than I do. And maybe I should suck it up. But I have been so unhappy for a while now. I guess I’m not sure who to turn to.