u/rabbit33333333

Nara Smith sitting down on Call Her Daddy to claim she isn't a tradwife and has "never been one" is a desperate attempt at historical revisionism. Her entire brand was built on standing in expensive clothes making food entirely from scratch to serve her husband and kids. Then there’s her personal life: she married Lucky after knowing him for less than 6 months when she was a teenager and he was already a father in his twenties then she intentionally became a teen mom.

The denial is ridiculous given her digital footprint. You don't lean heavily into the aesthetic, center your content around collabs with people like Hannah Neeleman (Ballerina Farm), and literally hashtag your videos with #tradwife for YEARS to juice the algorithm, only to act like the internet forced the label on you. Wanting to rebrand as a "working mom" now that her channel is a massive business doesn't erase the foundation she built her fame on and the label that she put on herself all on her own. The attempt at blaming others for how she chose to portray herself is a joke.

If she wanted to distance herself from the tradwife label, she should’ve avoided putting that label on herself in the first place rather than gaslighting her audience. She literally tagged her videos with it for years and made post after post about how she spent “all day” in the kitchen cooking for Lucky and the kids. Millions of people watched her use that exact label and regressive lifestyle as a stepping stone to skyrocket to fame, she can't just rewrite reality now that it's inconvenient for her to have the label on her that she put there herself.

So I’m at the age (22F) where some of my friends are starting to talk seriously about what they want for the future and I’m noticing a trend. My friends who are also women don’t want kids and all of the reasons why they don’t are super thoughtful, responsible, intelligent, and honestly I can tell how much they’ve all put thought into their decisions. But, almost of my guy friends all do want kids and when asked why, they all give reasons like “I want a mini me” and “I want someone to take care of me when I’m old”.

It blows my mind that 20-something’s can have such an unrealistic idea of how serious creating a whole new person is and how parenthood actually is. Having a baby is not creating a “mini-me” and I cringe whenever I hear people say it. I honestly think that more Gen Z peeps need to be reading the regretful parents sub so that they can understand what the blunt realities of being a parent are really like. I genuinely think that a blunt dose of the realities of parenthood on that sub would do everyone in this generation well because hearing the words “I want kids because I want a mini-me” is awful and I can’t hear it anymore.

Edit: thanks to the people who understand this post bc I’m seeing a lot of you and I appreciate you guys. To the people who are complaining about this post, most of you are just advocating for keeping young people in the dark about the darker realities of what parenthood is like which is quite scary. Informed decision making is key and the regretful parents sub has a lot of blunt realities and raw truths in there, which is why I suggested it as a means for providing a dose of reality to people who insist on having a kid to create a “mini-me”. At the end of the day, most of the narratives that parents will tell young people about what parenthood is like are lies and cope. That subreddit may be written by regretful parents but its post after post of the difficult truths and realities of parenthood. It’s the really awful stuff that parents have to go through that no one else will admit and knowing that is important. There is such a narrative around parenthood being this utopia of fulfillment and joy but that’s just a narrative meant to manipulate young people into making the choice to have kids. There are no tell-alls in the mainstream that tell you about the harsh realities that are on that subreddit and even though it’s written by people who identify as regretful, it is mostly things that all parents do go through and it’s told in a blunt and honest way. That stuff is SO important for young people to know about (especially with the current administration that’s in power in the US that is literally pushing for young people to have kids regardless of if they can afford it or if they even want kids at all) and I just wanted to direct people in my generation to a place that does have raw truth and the difficult realities that most people will not tell you or any of us about. Most of your parents will lie to you about how “great” being a parent is just bc they want grandkids which is why we all need to go somewhere that will tell us the things that they won’t. Truth and informed decision making are SO important. :)

So I just realized that I have no logged service hours for my clubs and organizations on GetInvolved despite regularly attending meetings. I’m applying to vet schools in the fall and I’m working on my application right now, on the application they want to see my experiences which would include the clubs and organizations I belong to. Right now the GetInvolved site says I have 0 service hours for everything but does that mean if they are contacted by the schools I’m applying to then they will say I don’t belong to them or didn’t do anything in the clubs and organizations? I applied and got approved for each organization when I joined via the GetInvolved site. I’m so confused tbh

Also if anyone has any experience with applying to vet schools, any help would be extremely appreciated.

How does letter of recommendations work for applying to vet school? How do I get them into the application system and who does my professor and doctor who are writing them for me send them to? I remember for undergrad applications they were sent directly to the schools I applied to but I don’t think that’s how it’s done for vet school (correct me if I’m wrong please). Any advice about the application process is also welcome and greatly appreciated :) 🩷