u/rainbowbritegonewild

I’m looking for philosophers or philosophical frameworks that have written things related to how I feel, whether agreeing or disagreeing. I’m trying to start researching but I don’t really know where to start. Thanks in advance

“If people werent in cognitive dissonance that average was okay they would end it. But they are convinced by a capitalist society that they are needed (to work) so they believe they can find happiness.

I believe that an average ordinary life is a fate worse than death.”

I see it on social media a lot where white women are called ugly and that it’s a red flag if a black man dates white women. But I don’t see the same heat when black women date white men.

White men quite literally “set that system up” they enable “white women tears” and etc. I do know that there are those twisted freak white women who call their biracial children or black partners the n word and that’s disgusting. And I also know of white dads/partners doing the same, equally vile and disgusting. I just don’t get what I perceive to be unequal heat between white men and women.

Now I’m not talking about calling white women out on their privilege. That’s different and a very real and valid thing I also see a lot on social media. I’m talking about comments or posts like “god gave white women small lips so they would stfu” or it’s “a red flag to date a white women” in black men comments. They call white women “the men of women” in what feels to be an attempt to say that they aren’t oppressed by patriarchy, that they aren’t also victims of abuse by men, that their reproductive rights haven’t also been affected (not as much as black women but still affected). Yes they have more privileges they are quite literally the “white people of women” aka white women.

I’m saying this seems less like talking about the actual impact of white women and their oppression of black women and men, their white women tears and more of an excuse to sexist. I may be wrong and ignorant and I want to learn. I get Reddit isn’t the best place to ask but I’m isolated socially right now due to things outside of my control and wondering. May regret posting it, but I am just trying to understand. Give us all the heat, we deserve it, but let’s just not make it sexist.

Edit - forgotten words

TLDR: Asking why white women are hated more than white men.

Wanting an answer not your reassurance or validation, just wanted to make that clear.

Edit - lowkey kinda think it’s just misogyny justified with the word “white” in front of it. Thanks for the info!

I’m 25 and graduated 2 years ago with bachelor degree. I have a job doing low brow healthcare administration and do freelance marketing consulting on the side to try and make money for food and gas. I’ve been actively applying for job for over a year now. I’ve redone my resume a thousand times and reached to people (cold reach out because I have no connections even though I’ve tried to network, the people I know don’t actually want to help me lol). I work about 70 hours a week and have no partner or friends or family. I was hoping to get a job out of state or remote so I could move. But yeah. Nothing. Even in state, nothing. I’ve applied to 1k jobs in 1.5 years. 3 first time interview no call backs, ghosted after I asked for feedback and no offers. I’m in a lot of debt and can barely afford food now. But it doesn’t really matter because I’ve kinda given up. I’ve become awful at my admin job and lazy. I hate it and it pays nothing for a full time job. I half panic I’ll lose my job but the other hopes they fire me.

So I’ve just given up. I look at jobs and I know I won’t get it so I don’t apply. I think some people are just meant for poverty and im one of those people. I mean how else would billionaires be billionaires if some of us weren’t in poverty. It’s such a joke at this point. I’ve even tried “unconventional” methods and sent letters yes actually letters to company hiring managers. Lol no one cared. I then got rejected for the jobs two weeks later. I hope the upcoming pandemic takes me this time.