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We’re taking things slowly and want to make sure we’re realistic about what’s considered normal.
If we meet a respectful single male, is it common for couples to have boundaries such as:
● no intercourse,
● touching and oral only (if everyone is comfortable),
● with the husband present the entire time?

Do most single men at lifestyle clubs respect those boundaries, or do they typically expect intercourse if there’s any interaction? (But of course things can change depending on how comfortable is for wife)

We’re just trying to understand the etiquette and how common this is. We’d really appreciate hearing from both couples and respectful single males with real experience.

UPDATE: after reviewing some of your advices, is it common to find couple with female happy to watch? In our couple we want to try hotwife experience and husband wants to watch while wife can enjoy. We thought maybe it will be find to find reverse couple where female enjoys watching.

My wife and I are considering going to L’orage Club on a Friday night for the first time.
We’ve been to one similar club before (Le Club L), but didn’t really connect with the crowd much. It was mostly couples stayed together.

We’re trying to understand what Fridays are actually like at L’orage recently:

- Is it still mostly couples or does it feel male-heavy?
- Are people actually interacting upstairs or mostly staying in their own groups?
- What time would you recommend arriving for the best atmosphere?

We want to enjoy the club, few drinks and music, as well as wife curious to try Hotwifing experience if it’s going to be possible (single male), but she definitely don’t want to surrounded by pressure.

Any recent experiences would be really appreciated.