Depressed husband
My husband (31M) and I (25F) got married on the 1st of Jan 2026. I was early in my first trimester of pregnancy (now 30 weeks pregnant) and was really sick so we didn’t go on a honeymoon until late April. We got back from our honeymoon about a month ago now and my husband has really been struggling. I think there’s a multitude of reasons for this so I’ll go through all of them.
Questioning his faith
I was raised Christian, but he came to faith on his own in recent years, so he’s still relatively new to his faith. But on our honeymoon he had lots of time to read the Bible, and he had so many questions. Every time he tried to find an answer to a question, the answer gave him 4 more questions. They’re not even questions I’ve ever heard asked growing up in church so I have no idea how to answer them either. They’re really good questions to be fair, and I’m not surprised he’s so shaken up about the absence of answers. Some of the questions I don’t think anyone can answer. So yeah, he’s not sure what God to believe in right now, whether Jesus was God, what the purpose of life is, etc.Sleep & fatigue
For months now he’s been struggling a LOT with fatigue. He’s ALWAYS tired, even when he wakes up. We spent months doing bloodwork and seeing doctors / naturopaths / Chinese medicine doctors. All his bloodwork was perfect, so a few weeks ago we thought we’d try a CPAP to see if it might be a sleep issue / sleep apnea. It helped the first night, but since then we’ve just had ongoing issues with it and it ends up waking him up too often and he’s waking up in the morning feeling worse than before. It’s driving him insane, he barely has energy to go to work, make food when he gets home, or go out and do anything.Work
When we got married he was doing FIFO fitter work, but his background is mechanical engineering. We thought it would be best for him to get back into that for future career progression. He found a job but had to drop his salary from $200k to $100k for it. The first few paychecks were pretty depressing for him. Anyway the work ended up not being quite what he expected and he’s not enjoying it as much as he thought he would. So the work, in addition to the salary, plus lack of sleep and him questioning his faith, he’s fed up with the job and is considering going back to FIFO.
All in all, things were ok before our honeymoon, but since we got back from our honeymoon he said he’s enjoyed nothing, he’s felt tired constantly and hasn’t been able to escape it, and he’s barely left the house even to go to the gym (which he usually does several times a week). I’ve tried supporting him where I can; making sure he has breakfast & lunch for work, doing everything I can to help him figure out his fatigue, trying to organise fun things for us to do together. But I’m just watching him get worse. And I’m acutely aware that when our baby comes things are going to get so much harder and I’m not going to have as much energy to support him. And right now, he can’t even support himself so he’s not going to be able to do anything for me so I’m pretty much going to be on my own. I do have my mum though.
It’s really hard watching him suffer & spiral. Nothing I do seems to help.
TL/DR;
Husband is struggling with sleep and fatigue (quite possibly has sleep apnea and the CPAP hasn’t been helping), questioning his faith, not enjoying his work, and getting progressively worse and less motivated. We’re expecting a baby in September and I’m worried how things are going to go when we don’t even have children yet and they’re already going downhill.