u/rddrgon

Something just occurred to me as I was lurking around here—I should’ve stayed gone when my ex and I broke up and I stayed away from church for two weeks. I stay for my friends but seeing my ex and his fuckass mustache and being judged by Frollo is just entirely too much.

I stay because I want to attend a lady I know’s baby shower in September (assuming it isn’t during college hours) and stay friendly enough in that regard before I have the excuse in spring that teaching all five days a week is too stressful and I need just two days off.

I can’t stop thinking about the prevalence of the emphasis of holistic health over everything. No vaccines so you don’t have a disabled child, no seed oils (a very nebulous concept), no pain killers, no NyQuil. What a sad way of life. And God forbid you come to a point where you go back on that in favor of actual health, you’ll never hear the end of it.

Ex: I had a couple who was inquiring at my church and they had a baby, complications for both mother and baby (including postpartum eclampsia and pneumonia for the baby) and the parents made the decision to vaccinate their baby girl for pneumonia so she doesn’t nearly die again. My ex was in the camp of simply letting her die over giving her a vaccine because the vaccine could kill her. Go figure.

Does anyone else sometimes deal with the reflexive surprise when you learn someone is living with their partner or having babies before being married? I feel like such an asshat when I get that surprise, my own sister isn’t married and has two kids. I do also want to clarify I don’t feel any judgement toward anyone. It’s also a bit ironic considering I was living with my boy part time last fall (what are you doing at the devil’s sacrament etc).

I got on nexplanon late May (I’ve bounced between BC, the first time I had nexplanon was not a good time) and my hormonal acne—the last of it that was sticking around even with trentinoin—is gone. And my periods have normal bleeding instead of heavy!

I don’t understand the real rationale for women veiling in the church. ‘Oh, you see the women doing it in icons’ because they were in really hot areas and needed to be protected from the sun. The icon of St Mary of Egypt is telling in that her backstory is as a prostitute and she’s not veiled. It’s been bothering me specifically because women in my church veil (whatever, not my monkeys) but these little girls (3-5) are veiling too. It could just be social referencing but I’m more than a little harrowed/annoyed about it.

I want to know if anyone else has seen/experienced this phenomenon, I like to call it the Frollo effect.

I ask because I have a younger guy at my church (literally one year younger than me) who is an orthobro if I’ve ever seen one. More than once, he’s gone off on tangents about how feminism has ruined women, general trump conspiracy theories, alluded to getting into theological arguments online, all the normal things like that. He also likes to think he’s smarter than me but I’ve argued him into corners more than once. The reason I give all this background info is because I can tell he thinks I’m pretty (good taste) but knows that I’m not trad/antifeminist/a moron so he makes his disinterest very clear via negging me or making fun of me.

Has anyone else ever experienced or seen this? Some days it makes me feel like I’m going to go crazy. Other days, it just tickles me pink.

I joined my church when I was 18, then was fully chrismated when I was 19. I wish, I guess, that I’d listened to my gut when the homily after Roe v. Wade’s overturn was celebrating that women’s right to choose is being receded. It probably would’ve saved me a lot of heartbreak and spiritual/emotional abuse by an older man at the church (I was 19, he was 25) for 2.5 years. I still participate, one of my friends had me as her sponsor for her wedding, but all this hurt has deeply affected my relation to the church. I’m just waiting until I move away to fully leave the church and take time to understand my own relationship to God, away from where my ex weaponized Orthodoxy and my priest to abuse me.

(My apologies if the flair isn’t appropriate and should be changed to something else)

I have a chevy sonic 2014 LT with 118k miles on it, it’s not a turbo engine. I have this tapping noise pop up when the door shuts too hard or when the car stops/parks—before you ask, the check engine light is on but my dad has a code reader that says it’s the catalytic converter. The ABS and traction control lights are both on, we took the car to a mechanic who tried putting in a new sensor for the ABS light, which didn't make it turn off. Lo and behold, the tapping noise. Does anyone have a single idea what it may be? Sidenote, does the air conditioning being on affect anything? It’s hot as hell and I’ve been driving with it on.