Coming to the realization my wife cheated on me
My wife was a stay at home mom that didn't cook, clean, or help with the kids. We went years without sex at times. She would be gone during the day at "friends houses" this went on for a decade. I loved her and I think that's why I never considered it.
Through the divorce I bought one of my coworkers got cheated on and she froze up. I kind of got scared of what that meant and moved on.
My wife used to go on vacation for months at a time to her parents' house. Definitely was going to parents. But in the divorce she said I deserved not to see my kids during the summer because I moved too far from home.
Last week I told her I wanted to go see Olivia Rodrigo with my daughter. She told me she just whines and takes no responsibility. I'm now realizing a lot of her songs are about being cheated on and my wife thinks that Olivia's fault.
A couple of these instances it was in a moment she was angry with me. I think she wants me to know to hurt me. However I know she doesn't want to look bad.
This has been building and becoming more and more clear to me she cheated. I've been having a hard time dealing with this lately. I know I should let it go but I want confirmation and I want to tell everyone. How can I deal with this?