i got signed out of my a-list on every single device and it won’t let me sign back in. just bought two tickets without my stubs and will be at a theatre tonight so i’ll go to guest services and hope they can fix it.
i just started no poo less than a month ago and i went in the pool yesterday (salt water) and after i rinsed my hair with water, i have so much dandruff as a result. how do you navigate no poo in the summer when you’re going in and out of the pool?
i am 22f and met a 23m on hinge at the beginning of this past month. we hit it off on the first date and we talked about our past relationships too. he told me his last serious relationship was 3 years long, and his ex broke up with him last year. i asked why things ended out of curiosity and he said she gave him an “ultimatum he couldn’t meet.” i was curious what the ultimatum was about, but he didn’t want to tell me so i didn’t pry bc it was the first date so i changed the subject. we continued to see each other and got intimate quickly as well, which all seemed great. he even introduced me to his single mom (who he lives with) after we had only had 3 dates, which i thought was a sign that he was seriously interested in me (meeting the parents is a big deal to me). i mentioned this to him on the next date because i wanted to check in about how things were going, but he said that meeting his mom was “an accident” and made it pretty clear that he wanted to take things slow and get to know me, and that he was not set on anything serious between us after such a short time. we were having quite a lot of sex though, which was all good, except for one thing: he is a biter. he bit me on my leg so hard i still have a bruise in the shape of his teeth marks. do with that information what you will… so as a result of us deciding to get to know each other better, i suggested that our next few dates be less about sex and more about getting to know each other. our 5th date was supposed to be just the two of us getting to talk, but he ended up changing the plan day-of because his mom decided to throw a dinner party, where i would also be introduced to his childhood best friend. being his plus one right after our conversation about us taking things slow was a bit confusing for me, but i went with it. i spent the night, and the following morning i reiterated that i was looking forward to future dates where i would get to know him better and have more time to talk. he suddenly interjected to express to me that he identifies as a libertarian. he said we hadn’t talked about politics yet, but he wanted me to know. i asked what that meant and he explained his beliefs vaguely, and then added “it also means i like guns.” i asked if he was joking, but he pulled out his phone and showed me pictures that his mom took of him posing with his guns. i thought this was definitely a curveball, but not necessarily a dealbreaker (i still wanted things to work out). the next day he asked to call and broke up with me over the phone for the reason that he had come to realize we had “fundamental differences” and “different expectations of relationships.” we ended up texting after and calling on the phone for 2.5 hours, where i said i was hurt because he had barely gotten to know me at all. i told him i was given a certain impression about the seriousness of our relationship and he should’ve been more careful about that. we argued a bit till i remembered to ask him “what was the fucking ultimatum about?” and he finally told me that the reason his long term girlfriend broke up with him was because he is anti-vaccination (which he got kicked out of college for) and it didn’t sit right with her to be with him because of that. the mysterious ultimatum was always in the back of my mind, but i would never have guessed that. i am a liberal from southern california, i don’t even think i know any anti-vaxxers. should i ask all my future dates if they are anti-vaxx and if they like guns? then he told me he was nervous to tell me before because he has had girls break up with him for his beliefs, so he was withholding this information on purpose. he said he knew that we would discover differences down the road if we were to continue to see each other, and i partially think he broke up with me because he realized i would break up with him eventually and he’s looking for a long term partner and he’s not going to change his beliefs. i’m not really sure where he’s going to find this dream woman of his in new york city. his political affiliation on hinge said “liberal.” i reported him on the app.
can anyone tell me what the mailing list “Pause for Effect” is like? is there recent stuff on there & is it worth getting the $5 subscription?