to the guys who were celibate pre op, do you think that made sensation post op more difficult ?
Please note I am in Canada so we are required to see a two specialized gender psychiatrists before going for surgery. While we wait for surgery, we have the option to keep seeing the psychiatrist for support, I am still waiting for my consult with the surgeon.
my dysphoria is crippling making sex a no go,(if I do push through, I can finish in the moment while I’m in it, it’s not horrible but then I just feel disgusting/shame then way worse dysphoria after)
my psychiatrist said that your sensation and ability to orgasm after post op is somewhat dependent on your ability to do so before surgery. He also said having the mind / body connection before surgery (using the parts) helps to aid with the nerve regeneration post op because that channel is already strong, or something to that effect.
So right now sex isn’t worth it to me and thankfully my partner is understanding of how bad my dysphoria is and doesn’t pressure me or make me feel bad. My thought is if it does truly help, I’d work on counselling through the dysphoria and negative emotions to pursue sex more, and if it didn’t I would essentially just wait until surgery is done to have a sex life.
So my question is, to those who were celibate pre op due to dysphoria or whatever else, do you think that made your sensation and nerve regen more difficult post op?? Or if you had other experiences, perspectives or advice to help me decide. I’m worried I’m making it worse for myself now.