Can feelings return after you have moved on in AM?
I'm 33M, Bangalore, working in tech. I've been in the AM process for about 3-4 years now.
About 6 months ago I got a proposal from a matrimony app. 33F, and I genuinely liked her. Nice person, easy to talk to. The kundali didn't match, so both families said no and we called it off. I am not a believer of kundali or caste but everyone in AM market do.
We kept talking on calls about once a week anyway. At some point I realised she was getting attached and it was turning into more than friendship, so we had an honest conversation and stopped talking. I'd also been telling her about my AM experiences and giving her advice on dealing with guys, so we were pretty close for a while.
Now, 2-3 months later, her family found a different dates that work, and the kundali issue is basically gone. My parents like her and her family too.
The problem is that I don't feel what I felt back then. When the kundali thing ended it, I accepted it and moved on mentally. I've been talking to other people since. Now I'm struggling to switch back to where my head was. She knows exactly how I feel and has been very understanding about it, which honestly makes it harder. I have made clear that it can be negative or positive but currently i don’t feel anything more than respect.
So: is this normal? Can feelings like this come back if I give it time, or does it usually mean it's not right?
Has anyone been in a similar spot, where the obstacle disappeared after you'd already emotionally moved on?