u/remsaidit

I, 21F, am training for my first half marathon. I got lucky enough to get access to the Nike After Dark Tour in LA! I started running last December when two of my friends voluntold me to run a 5k.

Mind you, I had never ran a consecutive mile in my life, let alone three.

After that first 5k, I hated it! Yet, I was intrigued. One thing lead to another and I’ve found myself training 3x a week with Hal Higdon’s free app, “Run With Hal” doing the beginner runner plan. 10 weeks in with three 5k medals under my belt!

The next thing I’d like to focus on is increasing my VO2 max. I would love to hear experiences around that and if anyone also started with Hal Higdon.

i, 21F, have a good relationship with my mom (F42?) overall, but we’ve clashed when it comes to social media a bit.

about a year ago, my mom started becoming a momfluencer on tiktok. she’s actually gained a decent following, and i’m genuinely happy that she’s found something she enjoys outside of being a mom. early on, i did give her some unsolicited advice, like warning her about tiktok scams that promise followers or suggesting different ways to approach things. she later told me those comments made her feel unsupported, so i stopped giving advice altogether. since then, i’ve mostly just listened to her talk about it and congratulated her whenever she hit milestones.

for context, my mom (before influencing) has always been weary about what i post on social media, especially when it involves family trips. even though my insta has always been private with only a few hundred people, she hated when i’d post while we were out of state because she didn’t want people knowing we weren’t home. we had a conversation about it and i understood the safety concern, so i stopped posting family photos during trips. even after i moved out, she’d remind me she didn’t want me posting selfies while we were traveling, so i respected that too.

recently, we went out of state for my sister’s birthday. my mom came into my hotel room excitedly and showed me a story she’d just posted on her private personal account. she posted a picture of herself and mentioned the state we were currently visiting.

the hypocrisy was triggering… so i said “wow i’m surprised you posted that since you’re usually uncomfortable with people knowing you’re not at home.” she got really upset and said i’d never supported her influencer career and that i’d made her feel awful for wanting to do something besides being a mom, and brought up the advice i’d given her when she first started over a year ago. (which we’ve already discussed as well and i understood that instead of it sounding like i supported her, it came off as me not trusting she wouldn’t get scammed) i was honestly confused because i didn’t think those two things were related.

i wasn’t criticizing her career at all. i thought i was pointing out what really felt like was a double standard based on rules she’d asked me to follow for years and even now.

anyways to keep the peace, i told her that i’ve always supported her and never doubted that she could even make a living off of this! and that maybe it was best to just not mention it to me anymore.

now i’m wondering if i should’ve just kept the comment to myself. AITA?