27Fwanted to be in love but didnt workout confused about AM
I’m going to be 28 soon, and honestly, I’m feeling pretty confused about what I should do.
I had a serious relationship for around 4 years, which ended about 2 years ago. Since then I’ve tried dating, but it just hasn’t worked out. Either people seem to want something casual, or we just don’t vibe/connect.
I genuinely do want to fall in love and have that feeling of choosing each other, but I also know I’m not against an arranged marriage. The problem is that now that my parents have started asking me to look, I feel pressured by the “this is an arranged marriage” aspect of it.
I’m naturally quite quiet, reserved and a bit moody 😅. It takes me a while to become comfortable with someone and actually open up. And from what I’ve seen, arranged-marriage conversations can feel very transactional — job, salary, family, expectations, marriage timeline… rather than actlly getting to know the person.
Maybe I’m overthinking the whole “love vs arranged” thing.
Would love to hear from people who’ve been in a similar situation.
TL;DR: Almost 28, had a 4-year serious relationship that ended 2 years ago. Dating hasn’t worked since. I’m open to arranged marriage but feel pressured by the process because I’m reserved and take time to open up, while arranged-marriage conversations often feel transactional. Confused about what to do