Labelled for having a *different* opinion
Matched with a person who claimed to have a 'balanced view on deen & duniya' i.e. being supportive of women's education and work.
After a single conversation wanted to exchange socials, because 'what else is there to know', which I refused. Mind you, I was the only one asking questions. The only thing he asked was about my father's profession.
Anywho, I asked about his plan for kids which he vehemently pointed out is a part of marriage commitment, and 'why else would I marry and simply not date instead'. I mentioned that it's not a must for me. My priority is finding a good husband first and if he has good qualities of being a father and also wants kids, only then I'd be on board. Otherwise it's a huge responsibility that I can't shoulder alone.
Cue the name-calling.
'feminist', brainwashed by 'western culture' (he lives in the west), women making such decision is bs, yada yada.
And when I pointed out the faults of eastern culture around honor killing, oppressing women's islamic rights, the script suddenly shifted on how Saudi was right for banning women drivers because the cases of affairs has skyrocketed (correlation =/= causation??) And even afghans in the west, whom he personally knows, don't scream for right to work so he doesn't understand why people bring up women's right in afghanistan.
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This entire conversation felt like the rage-bait I have only seen by trolls online. Coming across one in the wild has been eye-opening. How one question or opinion suddenly opens up a barrage of insults so damning that you try to dissect your own thoughts. Whether my opinion was truly atypical or have I just discovered a good filter?