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I've been following Abraham Hicks for a few years and I'm genuinely trying to apply the teachings.

Lately, I've been spending a lot of time just trying to feel good in the present. Slow mornings, coffee in silence, walking around the house, visualizing, lying on the couch, reading, meditating, doing chores, enjoying a peaceful day without forcing anything.

The problem is... months go by without "anything" happening.

I've definitely made progress in the past years. I earn more than I used to, I've had better romantic relationships, I'm calmer and more grounded than ever. But I'm still not at my financial goals, I'm single again, and I'm still not where I want to be physically or professionally.

Part of the reason I don't force things anymore is because, in my experience, whenever I act from pressure, urgency or frustration, I end up feeling burnt out and things seem to backfire. So I naturally lean toward waiting until I feel genuinely aligned.

Abraham says that forcing action from frustration only creates more resistance, and that inspired action comes naturally when you're aligned. I understand that intellectually.

But after months of "allowing," it's hard not to wonder: Am I genuinely allowing... or am I just avoiding taking action?

I also know that complaining about "nothing happening" is focusing on lack, which is upstream. But at the same time, isn't it natural to look at your life after months have passed and ask yourself whether something needs to change?

Has anyone else gone through this? How did you know the difference between trusting the process and simply waiting too long?

Say one day I eat a surplus of +500 Kcal and the next day a deficit of -300 Kcal; a trend for months

How will the body react? Recomp as in losing fat and building muscle?

Or I’ll remain more or less the same?

My current goal is add in lean mass and cut fat. And I dont like being in the cutting phase for too long, I feel weak if on a deficit (even if small) for several days.
Hence the ups and downs. Yet I workout and track everything daily

Thanks

I’ve been reflecting on craving (taṇhā) and how it shows up in my own life, from the perspective of understanding and practice rather than theory or doctrine.

For context, I’m in my mid-30s. Over the years I’ve been on well over hundred of dates, had relationships, and spent a lot of time dating, meeting women, going on dates, and engaging in ongoing interactions through dating apps and social media. There has often been a pattern of checking for messages, anticipating replies, looking at profiles, noticing notifications, and being mentally drawn toward the next possible date or interaction. Underneath all of this, it feels like there is a craving for intimacy, connection, and romantic relationship that drives a lot of this movement.

Over many years of dating and relationships, I’ve noticed a repeating cycle. There are moments of genuine enjoyment and connection, followed by periods where things feel less intense or uncertain, and then again new beginnings. Looking back, despite real moments of pleasure, there has never been a lasting sense of happiness that fully completes the search the mind seems to expect.

Recently, I took a break from dating apps and significantly reduced social media use. What I noticed in that period was a clear reduction in mental restlessness. It didn’t feel like craving disappeared, but rather that it became more visible and easier to observe without immediately acting on it. With less constant stimulation and input, the underlying movement of wanting attention, connection, and interaction came up more clearly to the surface, making it easier to understand and not automatically act upon it. Making craving and the overall pull more weaker.

Lately, in that same period of reduced stimulation, I’ve found more peace and simple enjoyment in everyday activities. Going to the gym, having quiet coffee time, meditating, lying on the couch doing nothing while listening to white noise from a fan, reading a book, or watching a movie. There is a kind of quietness in these ordinary things that feels more present when the mind is not constantly engaged in checking, anticipating, or looking for the next interaction. The not “wanting”(craving) anything is overall a peaceful feeling.

At the same time, I still value romantic relationships. I still have a desire for a partner and potentially a family in the future. My reflection is not about rejecting that, but more about observing the internal pattern around craving and stimulation. This makes me curious about what kind of relationship would naturally unfold or arise from a state of more peacefulness and less constant checking or grasping or less craving.

Curious about how others might relate to this kind of experience — whether this pattern of craving, stimulation, and eventual dissatisfaction is something others recognize in their own practice or life. Happy to hear different perspectives and opinions

I'm curious if anyone here has struggled with becoming too focused on food while tracking.

I've used MacroFactor with good results, but over time I noticed that logging every meal made me increasingly hypervigilant around food. I was thinking about calories and macros throughout the day, sometimes eating (or not eating) out of guilt rather than hunger. I also started having more digestive issues, which I suspect were partly related to constantly being "on alert" around food instead of eating in a relaxed state.

Recently, I've gone the other way: no tracking, just making sure I get enough protein and training consistently. The downside is that I feel like I'm mostly maintaining and not making much progress, feels like spinning my wheels. I'm trying to do a slow recomp (gain a bit of muscle while losing some fat), but progress feels hard to assess.

I'm considering a middle-ground approach: prioritizing protein, not weighing/logging food during the day, then doing a rough log in MacroFactor at the end of the day purely for awareness to at least progress towards the right direction but not sure if this will help in achieving my physical goals.

Has anyone found a way to get the benefits of tracking without becoming overly focused on food? What worked for you?