u/ritz1148

I have had to create some strong boundaries for my safety with my alcoholic husband. I am living with my parents as a result of his drinking, and I refuse to go home until he is sober.

I have had to step this boundary up to not seeing him or speaking to him unless he is sober. Since Saturday I have been asking him each day if he is sober so we can talk, and every day he is not.

Today I asked again, I was so hoping because he told me yesterday he only had one beer left. I foolishly thought this meant he was weaning himself down. NOPE. He got $20 from a friend to buy beer yesterday.

Then when I told him I won’t be budging on this, he texts me and says “Yeah and also was hoping to see you so we could do bottles and get a grocery gift car so I could start baking.” (he has been baking a lot)
So I reminded him that he just told me he got $20 from a friend and spent it on beer instead of eggs and then told him to leave me alone.

He responded with “Well you’ve taken everything else away from me so some beer it is.”

It is all he cares about. Not his wife. Not his kids (his kids wont see him. My kids wont see him). Not his family. Nope, just beer and the people who drink with him at the pub.

He is losing everything for an inanimate object.

It is my birthday tomorrow. I have a feeling I will be spending it alone.

My husband is my Q, and for the past 18 months, but more so in the last six months, he has been having paranoid delusions thinking he’s some kind of contract killer and works with gangs.

Well I moved out about a month ago, after having an EPO for several weeks, and since he no longer has access to a vehicle (no license from a dui), and is spending more time at home, magically the criminal world is no longer an issue.

He was so deep in this delusion, even when he was kind of sober, he would elude to this crap. I’m certain he has an underlying mental health illness but he won’t get assessed.

But magically he doesn’t need to go to the pub to wait for a “mission.” He can just stay home and bake all day, then go to the pub with his baking and become a feature baked item on the menu.

He had me believing for a while people were coming to harm us.

I’m just fucking annoyed this went on for so long and all his friends think I’m the villain in this story. If I run into any of his friends, I will not be kind to them.

I just needed to vent about the ridiculousness of this damned man.

I finished my degree and can now apply for graduation.

But…. I’m going to be away all summer working.

How do I apply for fall convocation? The only options it gives are spring or summer 2026.
But I won’t be around.