AITAH for not going to my good friend’s wedding because I couldn’t bring a plus one?
I’m 35F/ single and I’ve had a really rough year medically. I was in a bad car accident and have been dealing with a lot of recovery since.
A really good friend invited me to her wedding. I was still weak but feeling better, so I wanted to go.
When I got the invite, I texted her because I was so excited for her; we are both event producers, so I wanted to be respectful of her planning. I said I’d formally RSVP, but wanted to give her an early heads-up that it would be me and one other person. She replied that she wasn’t sure if she could accommodate both me and a date but would let me know.
She said I’d know some people from college there. The thing is, I hadn’t talked to most of them since college, and as far as I knew, they were all married or bringing partners.
I know weddings are expensive and guest lists are complicated, but the more I sat with it, the more it bothered me. She knew about my accident and logistically, I would have had a 3hr drive to the venue, attend the wedding alone, stay overnight by myself, and then drive back alone, which is exhausting for a healthy person.
In the end, I didn’t go, and I also didn’t text her back to follow up if I could bring the +1. We haven’t really talked since.
AITA for not going?
Edit: I don’t have time to respond to every comment, but I appreciate the opinions.
I just want to clarify that my injuries were not mild. If you know who Jeremy Renner is, my injuries were very similar in severity to his. A vehicle ran over me. I almost died. I had major facial injuries, hearing loss, collapsed lungs, broken ribs, a TBI, multiple reconstructive surgeries, and months of recovery/PT/speech therapy. A lot of it affected my face, which made it really hard for me to be social or feel comfortable being seen. She had visited me a couple months before the invitation went out, and we had talked pretty openly about how isolated I felt and how hard it was to go back into the world.
The person I asked to bring also wasn’t a random date. He’s been my best friend for 20+ years and would have been physical support (driving) & emotional support. I understand it was her wedding and she didn’t have to accommodate me. But I equally took it as a signal that aren’t really great friends. / edit to be clear, she also said she would get back to me on if it was okay and didn’t