u/roserosejasmine

I was doing really well with my budget and shopping way more mindfully and intentionally, but since i have been wedding planning more earnestly (and not just the wedding planning, but also I come from a big wedding culture where the bride needs to have specific outfits and things that she needs to take with her to her new house etc) and while I was better at being more organized, making lists, and having done my peace about the fact that I do need to get these things because of the wedding and moving to a new city, and I can afford them.

However the past two weeks, I have felt myself relapsing in the way I approach the shopping experience. Instead of it being more intentional and reasoned, I have felt myself justifying spending money because of course I need this, instead of waiting a few days before buying something, and going after work to window shop Just To See, knowing full well that I have a hard time not buying anything (even though I have been better at saying no to certain things)

I will do my best to get back on track, but it's still disheartening to go back to those old habits

I am moving to a new city in october, and I have a lot of books and a lot of clothes. I have done a big declutter of both these categories back in the fall, however I still feel like I have wayyyyy too much, even though it is all behind closed doors and in storage.

So I'm attempting a second pass, and I find it even more difficult than the first pass, where I had managed to get rid of 5 bags of clothes and 3 boxes of books, and yet I have still too much and it is getting so difficult to take decisions on where to cut things. I am dreading the move if I have that many things to bring with me, and I want to lighten the load, not only mentally but also the physical act of boxing everything and taking it with me is overwhelming me, but I love books and I love clothes, and I know i will never be a minimalist in those areas, but goodness, how do I manage to cull the quantity that I have even just a bit more ?

UPDATE: Thank you to everyone for your advices !!!! I still have a bit of a way to go, but i managed to get rid of one giant bin bag of clothes, so that's already that much less to deal with, i'll continue to work on it slowly but surely !