Brain Cancer/Dementia
Mom (72) is living alone, but that’s what she wants. She was diagnosed with cancer last year, and it’s just spread like wild fire—now into her brain. Her already cantankerous attitude now amplified. I’ve read that brain cancer can change someone’s demeanor—but it’s only made her abusive behavior worse. She’s falls all the time now and she’s definitely losing her mind. I live 4 hours away. Her neighbor calls me and lets me know what’s going on. I attempted to get involved at first—because she’s absolutely in a shitty situation and I feel awful for her. But she is just so mean and nasty, I was met with abuse, denial & resistance. When I found out that she removed my name from her primary care doctor & revoked consent for me to be able to access her medical information, I made the decision to stay away. She wants my help—but not really, I think she just wants someone to kick around. She has a long long long history of pulling me in with sob stories and then gets pissed off when I try to help. But this time it’s true—she’s really sick. Ugh—the guilt. She needs to be in a nursing home. Having her in my home, with my family, is out of the question.
Ive been on this sub for a while, reading everyone’s posts and comments looking for advice. I’ve learned that when the social worker calls from the hospital, tell them that i cannot take her on and then they will place her in a nursing home. That’s what I’m waiting for.
Assuming she’s also told the hospital she doesn’t want me to know her medical status, will the hospital contact me?