nonchalant yandere???? is that a thing??
im on meds that make it so i cant really feel much but im still utterly obsessed with my partner, the only difference is i'm less.... affectionate about it. it doesnt come naturally most of the time to say nice things—if anything, i'm the opposite (i'm working on it, though), but when it comes to their health or their general livelihood, i can be very.. controlling, for their own benefit?? i guess??? like, if they havent eaten and they say they dont wanna eat, my brain will SSCCRREEAAAM that i have to FORCE them to, which i just used to do, but now instead, i suggest something easier to ingest that gets the most nutrients that they need, and plan a time for them to have it if they don't want it immediately. i'm like this with everything that has to do with health, pretty much, too—im the most controlling caretaker, its weird. i'll also get incredibly aggressive about people in their life that i think dont deserve their attention blurrggh... not to mention the violent thoughts i withhold from them about those people
i surround most of my world around them, even down to the future college and living plans, but i just simply can't feel the euphoric love feeling i used to get when i would be around them. im changing my meds soon anyway, so this is kind of a redundant post, but TLDR; do you HAVE to feel that lovey-dovey euphoric feeling like your heart is EXPLODING around your lover to be a yandere?? or..... does some of the other criteria i have work? lol