r/Yanderes

I desperately want to be listened to and not just idealized. I want someone to ask me questions and participate in conversations (or even just to ask me "and you?" when I ask for info about them) I'm so sick of feeling like no one cares to get to know me, like no one will ever want to know me as deeply as I know them. Especially as an obsessive person, I like to learn everything I can about people, and I just want someone to match the effort I put in? Ask me things, start conversations, show me you're also interested in learning :(

The first bout of real depression I ever had was in the summer of 6th of 7th grade. It’s funny, but I watched an anime that was so wholesome, and I wanted what was in it sooo bad. The exact thought that really did it was “You’ll never be loved like that. You’ll never be taken care of in that way” and it sent me into a depression.

This is linked to a memory I had on a July 4th where my sisters dragged me out of the house to some field. They were running around doing stuff, but I was just sitting down. It’s a vivid memory with an empty feeling.

I have more, but that’s the first one. Memories of sleeping through July 4th, trying to ignore it, disassociating, etc. even little things we did in our house like leaving soda on the table didn’t last long. July 4th became just another thing that I didn’t do, but other people did.

I wanted to change that this year and go out, but I quickly realized it was impossible. I needed to go out and not be alone (be around others) and not feel lonely (totally different). Basically, I’d need a partner to feel anything lol. At first I gave up, but then I decided to make an audio for it. It was the only thing I could think to do. I want to feel love. I want to be with someone. I want to be happy… but the best I can manage for tomorrow is to experience it through my own story.

I don’t think my plan will fix my unresolved loneliness around the day, but it’s something. My therapist, my parents, my best friend, they all say I don’t “need a partner” when I actually do. It’s nothing less than a need. A requirement to live, period. I can’t even experience things properly without a dedicated person. People will really tell you to go to the movies and sit by yourself with popcorn. They’ll tell you to eat at restaurants alone. Watch the fireworks alone. Go to a party alone. How? So I can feel like shit the whole time? It’s not fair.

So a quarter year ago my Darling left me out of the blue. They said it was too much for them and they couldn't take it anymore. My darling told me they loved me but it wasn't enough. They cried and kissed me and then disappeared. They broke off all contact. During this time I have made major progress with myself. I've fixed most of the things that put strain on our relationship. I've tried to follow the advice I kept getting and move on but I can't. My darling and I were obsessed with one another. It went both ways and was beautiful. That's the reason the breakup caught me so off guard, they really were one week kisses and family planning and the next week I am unsure I want this and I'm breaking our promise to stay together forever. I've been telling myself keeping distance is the best thing to do but now I'm not so sure anymore.

I want to win my Darling back! I have this idea that it's possible, this intangible feeling drawing me to them. What should I do? I've been holding back and focusing my obsession into art and work. The drive I have to reunite with my darling seems different, cleaner or more pure, than before. I also have this nagging thought that if I don't try absolutely everything to save our connection, I wouldn't be able to live with myself.

What is your opinion? Can I succeed? Should I even let my heart chart the course? Was I wrong to hold back?

​I dream of a life where your love for me is so intense it borders on a beautiful madness. I want you to control my world. Take my phone, delete the outside noise, and lock the door so that no one else can ever reach me. I want to look into your eyes and feel that terrifying, dark jealousy whenever the rest of the world gets too close. Where anyone else would run away in fear, I will just smile, because your absolute possessiveness is the only place I ever want to be.

​I will fully accept this fate with you. I am ready to give you my absolute attention, my devotion, and every single ounce of my energy. I will never waste myself on anyone else ever again, my soul belongs strictly to you. If your mind spirals, if your attachment gets so high that you feel too crazy, I will be right there to comfort you, soothe your fears, and prove that nothing and no one will ever be allowed to stand between us.

​I want to spend my life making you happy, creating a domestic paradise where you never have to hide your darkest, most unfiltered self. Your obsession is my safety. If you are a Yandere who thinks he is too intense to be loved normally, please come and find me. Put the cuffs on, throw away the key, and let me be your permanent secret.

AGH its so annoying every time i meet someone they either disappear within a few days or are poly/cheaters. And i rarely ever meet anyone new which makes it sm worse. I just want to meet the right person but god its so hard.

My heart always ends up feeling heavy or hollow, either bc i crave love or because i havent felt it in so long. And it always demotivates me sm, feels like im crawling up quicksand.

I still hope theres someone out there, but it just feels pointless trying sometimes.

GOD and when they do stay for longer than a week its always slow responses. I think sometimes im too kind and just seem cringy. Im going to try ease up a bit more in the future, stop trying so hard till i meet someone that appreciates it

Hii so first i wanna say i did read the rules and i hope im not saying anything wrong because english is not my first language ^^
Sorry for not setting a flair, i wasn’t sure which one fits.

So ive been in this sub for a while now and i think i am yandere but how can i know for sure?
I do get obsessed with my love, i stalk him and control him, or i try to. How can i be sure im yandere and if i am how do i know what type??

Are there tests? can it be a diagnosis?
I wanted to post something here many times but i always feel like i shouldn’t as long as im not sure if i am yandere or not.

How do you guys know? Any tips? Thanks in advance:3

Edit; I just wanted to add that i am looking for therapy and i actually forgot smth really important. i am diagnosed with BPD, thats the main reason why im not sure because being obsessive could also just come from that. Also honestly i dont know if you can have BPD And be yandere.

If a heterosexual man falls in love with a lesbian, do we agree to abandon this impossible love?

I'm love to talk to writer and hear and brainstorm with ither writer like me if you would like to talk you can dm me also for such of lgbtq rep.

I'm wanting to talking yandere character who part of lgbtq community?

Tell me about they personality

What gender And sexuality they are.

And show what they look like.

This is my first time posting here, so i'm a bit nervous..

My boyfriend is an artist of sorts, he loves drawing and i love his art. We spend basically all day - every day together but lately he has been wanting to spend more of his time drawing than to spend time with me. It's stressing me out really bad and he knows that but all he says is "that's what you get for dating an artist" and stuff close to that.

Being away from him or having a lack of his attention for more than 30 minutes is already stressing me as it is. Now he gets an attitude whenever I dont want him to draw most of the day. He also doesn't want a schedule. Being away from him for too long hurts and it's worse that it's a long distance relationship!

I posted this here because i want to find others who understand me and maybe can give advice if they have any. I feel sick thinking about being away from him for so long.

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Hey everyone! 🌸

I am an independent solo female founder (18yo) and I’ve been working super hard on a laptop to build a safe, wholesome space for our alternative communities. I grew completely tired of cold, corporate platforms where our fashion styles are misunderstood, and where explicit spam or catfish accounts run wild.

So, I am currently developing two separate aesthetic platforms under my developer name **AiriSparkle✿**, and I wanted to share a sneak peek of the layouts I designed to get your thoughts before the official Google Play release!

Here is a breakdown of what you see in the images:

1. 🍮 PuddingHearts ~ cute dates 🎀

This is an activity-first dating and friendship app. No endless swiping! You create or browse cozy dates (like going for Bubble Tea or visiting a Maid Cafe). Chat only unlocks once the plan is mutually accepted. It features continuous background Kawaii-LoFi music, cute chime alerts, and highly satisfying ASMR mechanical keyboard typing sounds! On this app, you start your journey as a 🌱 Baby Sprout! Yes, Yandere preferences/flags are fully welcome here, as long as everyone stays sweet, clingy out of love, and completely respectful! 🔪💖

2. 🥛 Mochii ~ pastel social ✿

A 100% free aesthetic social network designed to look like a hyper-cute, clean alternative to Instagram. It features an in-app polaroid camera with free custom filters like 'Strawberry Milk 🥛🍓' and 'Anime Sparkle Magic ✨' (which adds real-time floating stars over your photos). It has a clean 3x3 profile layout grid, Cozy Stories decorated with cute animal stickers, and satisfying ASMR "heart pop" sounds when you double-tap to like a post.

🛡️ Safety First: Both apps feature strict, hardware-level device fingerprinting blocks. If someone is reported for being a catfish, a scammer, or posting inappropriate (NSFW) content, their physical phone is permanently banned from the database so they can never return.

Since I am a beginner managing this entire project lifecycle independently, I am focusing on making the visual design absolutely perfect before compiling the final build.

Please swipe through the screenshots and let me know your honest feedback! Which feature or visual design element are you most excited to try? 🎀🌟

(Mabey I'll change something)