r/Yanderes

Is it weird for me to be feeling this way?
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Is it weird for me to be feeling this way?

So there is this person at the school I go to and she is just so perfect for me, I obsess over her all the time and she looks really pretty, shes kind and also funny, the thing is, shes just out of my league socially, shes one of the popular girls and I'm one of the loners who are obsessed with horror and thinks called "weird", I only stay with one friend group and barely speak to anyone outside of them, inside of lessons I barely talk to anyone and I'm just really unpopular/bullied, and I'm not sure if her funny comments/sarcastic remarks are her being rude to me because I am just so obsessed over her, I mean her hair, face, makeup, personality are just such my type, but I don't know if Im blinded by love to be loving her and brushing these comments off as jokes, I'm just so obsessed with her, she just seems so kind yet sometimes joins in on the bullying but its not as severe as the others, it's just lighthearted jokes we both sorta laugh about, idk anything about her as we live in completely different worlds, we get on the same bus and we sometimes talk with each other, I mean this girl (we'll call her Erin as I'm not revealing her real name) is just so pretty and I admire her so much, but I'm nervous to ask her out or even approach her as she's popular and I used to be popular but I'm now bullied for my past and personal stuff that happened years ago, not to mention, I just can't seem to fit in anywhere else from my friend group, yet Erin is just so kind and funny to me, but as I said again, I don't know if I could even approach her as we are in 2 seperate worlds and I'm not sure if those "jokes" are her bullying me, I'm really obsessed with her, but I don't know if I could even speak to her without her speaking to me first, this is backed up by the fact that in my opinion, I'm really ugly. Thanks for listening to my rant and I hope you all can give me advice on this situation

u/Blurb_The_Alien — 14 hours ago

nonchalant yandere???? is that a thing??

im on meds that make it so i cant really feel much but im still utterly obsessed with my partner, the only difference is i'm less.... affectionate about it. it doesnt come naturally most of the time to say nice things—if anything, i'm the opposite (i'm working on it, though), but when it comes to their health or their general livelihood, i can be very.. controlling, for their own benefit?? i guess??? like, if they havent eaten and they say they dont wanna eat, my brain will SSCCRREEAAAM that i have to FORCE them to, which i just used to do, but now instead, i suggest something easier to ingest that gets the most nutrients that they need, and plan a time for them to have it if they don't want it immediately. i'm like this with everything that has to do with health, pretty much, too—im the most controlling caretaker, its weird. i'll also get incredibly aggressive about people in their life that i think dont deserve their attention blurrggh... not to mention the violent thoughts i withhold from them about those people

i surround most of my world around them, even down to the future college and living plans, but i just simply can't feel the euphoric love feeling i used to get when i would be around them. im changing my meds soon anyway, so this is kind of a redundant post, but TLDR; do you HAVE to feel that lovey-dovey euphoric feeling like your heart is EXPLODING around your lover to be a yandere?? or..... does some of the other criteria i have work? lol

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u/s_n_u_f_f_y — 11 hours ago
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how to control my extreme jealousy??

i have extreme level jealousy and possesiveness to the point where if my partner mentions they've been with their friend i get so angry and hate it soooo much . i hate that she has other friends but i also hate feeling this toxic level of jealousy and possesiveness ...ofc she should have friends and stuffs but it bothers me so much when she mentions them/ be with them. how do i get rid of my jealousy?? i want to be a secure and healthy person

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u/Dapper-Ad2304 — 15 hours ago
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Sticks and Stones...

may break my bones but that's nothing compared to the death tones of being alone...

u/Aggravating_Heart447 — 23 hours ago

I dont wish you well

I hate to hear you laughing and giggling with someone else, I hate to see you being happy with him, I hate that I couldnt make you that happy, to be honest I dont want you to be happy unless you are with me, I wish the worst for you when you are distant to me, and I know how fucked up it is.

My attraction for you is dead, my desires of you are fading away, and I feel more in control of myself, I wanted to be free from you and its going well and yet I cant seem to accept that you would be much happier with someone else. I wish you cared more, I wish you really wanted this work but every moment that you chose to not come to me is proof that you never really cared about me, you never wanted anything real with me, perhaps my loneliness was convenient for you, and your boredom was the opportunity I was looking for, I dont think you played with my feelings I just think my interest for you was satisfying for you.

Ive suffered enough for you, I tried my best, I strived for something beautiful and in my loss I learned more about myself. This child deserves to be loved, to be wanted and accepted, now I know you are not for me because you cant love this kid, you are too serious, too cold, you wanna feel in control and your own freedom, you pretend to be more mature and smarter than anyone else and yet you wear a collar and a leash as long as they sell you the illusion of control and freedom.

I guess we all have our weaknesses, and I dont judge you for them, im not going to be controlled if anyone tries to sell me the illusion of friends and a home, I wasnt meant to fit in, let alone have friends, but id rather die than to have something fake.

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u/jordileo2003 — 20 hours ago
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Withdrawals

You

I hate these withdrawals,

the way I claw and shake

For you

It could never be fake

I'd crawl hands and knees just to please these growing needs

For you

These aches and shakes—

Gods, how long will this take?

You

Seeing and hearing things too,

like your voice on cue,

with the lovely shadow shaped like you

You

Just to feel your sin upon my skin,

humble the instinctive crumble from your absence

You

Bleeding from my eyes, without seeing under your careful disguise

Hooked—it's bad,

and I don't want rehab

The clock—its never-ending ticks

You.

You.

You...

I just need my eternal fix.

You

~

u/Aggravating_Heart447 — 2 days ago
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Our love landslide

Our love will live like a landslide

Making the noise subside

So strong it changes the world around us itself

To them it's stone but to us it's home

We'll dance to the beat of the falling fleet

Wiping away any trace of what existed before

Closing every door

The rumble like a lullaby

It's just the start, rocking us slowly in each other's arms to decend into the heart

Until then...

I'll suffer in this supposed zen

Counting each lonely breath again and again

As hopes rise and fall without the sound of that tumble and crawl

u/Aggravating_Heart447 — 3 days ago

Quick question

So what makes you obsessed over someone? Like specific traits, gestures, body language, their past , etc. And don't say vague stuff like they are kind of something, be specific what tiny stuff makes you obsessed over them so much

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u/Anonymous_CatBoi — 3 days ago

What is a good ways to show a yandere fantasy about they Obsssed with and have it say something about the yandere?

I'm writer byway I'm writing a Obsssed villain

In his pre villain arc

I'm gotta ask a question what is good ways to show a character fantasizing about his friend and have it say something about the character mindset ?

Context this character is a future villain and his friend is a heroine They not a couple in real life.

They childhood friends this set in a fantasy world.

If anyone would like to talk you can dm me if you a writer and we can talk about the writer.

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u/Flimsy_Tune_7206 — 3 days ago

I wish I could have a friend to talk to about this stuff.

I feel like if I was to mention things like yanderes and how I think I’d be looked at as messed up

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u/Cookie98762 — 4 days ago

How can I help my darling understand she is worthy of love?

She and I have been in a relationship for some time now, and it's been fantastic.

It's just, there's something I want to help her with, because as her future wife I want her to feel happy and comfortable.

She constantly thinks she isn't worthy enough of love, of my love, that she isn't special or unique enough for me to love her. She knows I am a yandere and of my BPD, and I constantly reassure her that I chose her, because she is her, the love of my life.

But it's difficult, have you also had this issue with your darlings? Do you have any tips or advice I can use to help her feel validated?

I know deep inside she has a loving flame that rivals mine, but she can't express it fully most of the time because of all of this, so I want a way to make her feel more comfortable.

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u/G_80 — 4 days ago

Why am i always alone..?

I dont know why im unloveable...is it because im fat or that im stupid? I'm wondering why I can't find someone who can love me for being myself and talk to me nobody wants to spend time with me. I'm not looking for the perfect girl, I just want to be able to be loved and to be able to be happy. i literally chatted with a girl who seemed really nice and she liked me and then the next day she blocked me out of no where.. and im 20 years old and a guy. whats worse is i never even had a relationship before i never had a girlfriend so i have no idea what its like to be loved...or how to show the other person how much they mean to me... if i could be obessive happy over the person i love and show them how much they mean to me i would be happy to just see that that person would know how much i appreciate and love them.

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u/Traditional_Cat2863 — 4 days ago
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Hunter Mandrake is a 19-year-old psychopathic escapee from the Richmond County Home for the Unwell in Rhode Island. From an early age, he was always considered “off” detached, unsettling, and disturbingly fascinated by violence. While other kids feared horror movies, Hunter studied them, drawn to the pain, fear, and brutality they portrayed. His first serious childhood injury awakened something deeper: a masochistic fixation that would only intensify over time.

Unable to connect with others and increasingly isolated, Hunter became the outcast. His parents, unable or unwilling to deal with him, eventually sent him away to the institution. There, his sense of alienation hardened into something darker. He longed for connection especially love but constant rejection twisted that desire into obsession. What began as loneliness gradually spiraled into a yandere-like fixation on control, attachment, and possession.

As the years passed, Hunter evolved into something far more dangerous. He became a calculating and methodical killer, taking pleasure not just in violence, but in the psychological domination of his victims. He embodies traits of antagonism deceptive, manipulative, callous, exploitative, and arrogant. Despite this, he can appear outwardly charismatic. His extraversion allows him to engage and disarm others, using charm as a weapon to lure and control.

Hunter’s personality is paradoxical. He is highly conscientious organized, patient, and deliberate capable of planning his actions with precision. At the same time, he exhibits extremely low neuroticism, remaining calm and composed even in chaos. Beneath it all lies a complete absence of empathy, paired with grandiosity and a belief in his own superiority.

His masochistic tendencies eventually manifested into something unnatural: a regenerative ability that makes him nearly impossible to kill. Hunter can recover from fatal injuries and, through sheer willpower, force himself back to life. Death itself has become meaningless to him something he can resist or reject entirely. This power only deepened his descent into megalomania, reinforcing his belief that he is unstoppable.

While on the run from law enforcement, Hunter began stalking NSFW content creators through a stolen Twitter account, “CollinGree6721.” After taking control of the account, he discovered its original owner was connected to a mysterious group known as the Coalition of Collins. Intrigued, Hunter investigated further and uncovered the existence of the multiverse and, more disturbingly, a counterpart of himself: Collin Green Jr.

Driven by curiosity and ambition, Hunter attempted to infiltrate the Coalition. However, his deception was uncovered almost immediately. Collin Green himself intervened and had Hunter arrested before he could fully embed himself within the group.

Now, Hunter Mandrake is once again on the run but this time, not just from law enforcement. He is loose within the multiverse, armed with near-immortality, a fractured mind, and an ever-growing obsession with power, control, and identity across infinite realities.

u/ddlc_mr — 6 days ago
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Pls don't ban me atleast read the body and tell me what to do

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Long story short i ranted about my life :

My dad only wanted a girl but I was born as a boy. They dressed me up as a girl until I was about 3-4 years old and then it got obvious that I couldn't be a girl and he started abusing me alot. Then they had another baby and it was a girl and she got cherished like royalty while I didn't even get crumbs. He'd beat me , shock me , crush my hands in case door hinges , lock me in closets for days , starve me, hide my books, threaten me stuff like "he'll break my limbs and throw me in a dustbin alive in a faraway city " . All the while I watched my sis get absolutely cherished for existing . My mom would stand up for me initially but he'd just fight her too and she stopped caring after a while too . One day she got into a huge fight with him and the next day she left with my sis leaving me alone with that monster for 2 months as a 5-6 year old and he'd blame me for everything,make me do all the house work , make me wear girl clothes even touch me like a girl and abuse me alot , i don't even remember most of the stuff he did . About 2 months later my mom came back and he just acted like all that stuff to me never happened. The abuse continued and eventually he was making me do his corporate modules, crm reports and stuff for like 8 hours a day during Covid and that included adult work place ethics quizes , yk stuff designed to train bank branch managers being forced upon a 12 year old and if i messed up something I was abused and slept in the closet without food . Once I tried child helpline but they just came and took bribes money and left and I got 4 broken fingers that night because I called the child helpline . I've never been healthy too I was always sick and no one took care of me I was going to tumour treatments alone as a 16 year old too . I have chronic pain in my entire lower body since childhood and they never got it checked because it was me who was hurting . I once accidentally slipped up about my dad being toxic to a friend and he black mailed me for the rest of school life (2 years) . Not to mention I got severe puberphonia for 3 years , to the point even teachers would visibly laugh hearing my voice and it got me bullied and sexually assaulted too and my dad absolutely mocked my manliness because of it. I stopped speaking altogether because of it and yeah life's Just one big hell I haven't touched a human for months, my last human touch was a nurse taking a blood sample from me and that was last year because I had severe dengue and was fainting alot. He forced me to keep long hair so he could use it as torture too like he'd force wash my very long hair with cloth detergent and then blow dry it and and yank a comb through than mess completely dry no conditioner no shampoo no oil just nothing, it hurt like crazy because of all the tangles and my scalp was already dried from the detergent . Also he's very religious and respected in society so no one would ever believe me . I was constantly abandoned at random places as a kid too .

I desperately need someone who won't leave me , i am very clingy , get jealous easily and insecure but I'm not the yandere type I'll just spiral internally and overthink everything . Idc if they are abusive as long as they keep me around for the rest of my pathetic life

u/Anonymous_CatBoi — 6 days ago