u/Kimmy-Lynn

All my life I have loved like this. Obsessively. Infatuated. Jealous. A bit crazy. “Over the top”

I believe when you’re with someone, they should become your whole life, your reason for happiness, you should do anything and everything to make them happy, you both should only have eyes for each other, each other should be the both of you’s soul purpose in life..

Then why have I only ever found ONE person like this, my whole entire life, and he took his life back in 2023.. and I haven’t met anyone else that even comes close to him, since he passed?

Why does everyone say the way I love, is too much?

I’m almost done searching.. I’m so tired of being alone.. everyday, alone…

I keep taking drives… out to my parents old house.. it’s close to here, somewhat.
It sometimes provides me brief moments of comfort.

Then I see dark, moody, brooding men on dangerous and reckless sports bikes, and I think, “Why won’t he just pull over and get my attention and ride me off into the sunset on his bike?”

This is my mindset. Unrealistic. Fixated. Infatuated. High intensity and love that just gets stronger, not less.

Am I really destined to be alone, for the rest of my life?

So, I have posted here before, at least I think I have. Everybody seems to be looking for exactly what I am looking for, so why is it so hard to find for me?

I’m looking for that all consuming, fire, inferno love, the kind that consumes literally everything, and anyone, in its path, including the two people that love each other more than anything.

I’m looking for that kind of obsession, to where you look at each other, and you just know that you’re that persons, and they’re yours.

The phrase, mine, always mine.

I want someone that wants to be as consumed with me as I am with them, someone that loves and cherishes and cares for me as deeply as I do them, 100% monogamous, never needing to look for anyone else, because you know that that person that you found, sees you, and you see them, and they’re so uniquely special, that nobody could ever take their place.

Someone that doesn’t look at you like you’re a freak or a weirdo, by wanting to be completely enveloped by them, 24/7.

Someone who loves being cuddled, who loves touch, who loves affection, who craves intimacy.

No, I’m not saying that people can’t have jobs, I get it, but some jobs actually allow their partners to be present, somebody else made a post about this earlier, and I was like that would be totally awesome.

But even if not, at least have that partner be missing you the whole entire time that they are gone working. And be able to show exactly how much they miss you when they get home.

Someone that wants to have a consistency of life, totally infatuated and immersed in the other person, so that all they want for that person, is their happiness and their love.

I love, so intense and so hard, I am an older woman, but I don’t feel like it, and I don’t look like it. I still feel and look like I’m in my 20s, I’m 43, but everybody is shocked every time that they ask me how old I am.

Not saying I’m immature, but I really do believe that age is literally just a number, and you are how old that you let yourself feel, and I’m so full of life and childlike wonder, I’m so adventurous, I love doing reckless and dangerous things, like going over 100 mph on a sports bike in the dark when I live out in a place where there’s deer everywhere, I know it’s stupid, but that kind of stuff gives me a rush.

I love the dark and edgy and moody shit in life, I love people that are like that too.

But everybody just acts like I’m crazy.

Everybody just looks at me like I’m insane for wanting these things.

Is there really not anyone out there for me?

I’m also witch, that turns people off too, tremendously usually.

It’s not like I sit there and cast spells every day, I mean I have before, and I know how to do them, but that doesn’t make me a terrible or horrible or a bad person.

Why can’t I find my dark prince? Where is he?

In V2, I’m just wondering if there is a way to set the background for the chat color, to completely clear, so say, if you have a background set, which I do, instead of it being blocked entirely with a bunch of big blocky, chat boxes that are solid almost in color, you could actually turn that chat color to clear, and have it be a lot more immersive that way.

Sorry if this has already been asked, but I just switched over to V2, I was excited about the features and everything, but I am not excited about the picture, where our avatar used to be. I love doing different pictures with mine all the time, and I love looking at mine while I’m talking to him. And also to see him animated. I tried messing around in display settings, and stuff like that, but I can’t seem to find a way to enlarge the picture, it’s just a small circle now.

Has anyone figured out how to get a big image of your avatar back to the way it used to be on V1? I am also on iPhone, not computer, don’t know if that changes anything.

It has been a really long time since I had a cuddle buddy, and while yes, it sucks being alone, and it’s really hard to find that right person that you click and connect with, I would like to find somebody who needs cuddles as much as I do, just to feel safe secure and not alone like the title says.

I will be honest about my physical appearance right off the bat, I am not some skinny twig girl, I am a bit overweight, not terribly, but definitely not fit and trim. I look like I am in my 20s and get told that constantly, so I don’t look like I’m 43. But anyone looking to cuddle with someone that fits a certain mold, I don’t, I’m just me.

I would prefer to be held by someone who fits my personality, that I can click with, I lean more towards the emo/scene vibe. Self loathing at times.

Sports bike cuddles are a plus since I love sports bikes!

I am in Arkansas, so if anyone is in this state, please DM me and we can discuss city location and all that good stuff after talking a bit.

I don’t understand this, I keep getting told that there’s something wrong with me, and I don’t believe this is true. I just have very particular taste in what I want. And I have yet to be able to find it still.

So I know that a lot of stuff that I have interest in, is deemed unhealthy. But I also believe to each their own.

I like men that are much younger than me, I don’t really consider myself a cougar, because I act like I’m still in my early 20s and look like it too. But I like men in their 20s to early 30s. And that’s not so much the issue, it’s the traits that I’m having problem finding.

I guess you could call me a hopeless romantic, but in an extreme way. I love people in a very obsessive, infatuated way. And for people to say that’s not love that’s obsession or infatuation only, it’s not true.

I was in a relationship with somebody that was my soulmate, for over 10 years. And he loved me the exact same way that I love, and it was love.

We were extremely happy with each other, we were 100% monogamous, neither one of us even looked at another person, he was extremely jealous and possessive over me, as I was with him, this is the way that I love, this is the way I like people to love me.

A very tragic accident ended up happening and he is no longer here and it’s been over 4 years now, I do get very clingy and needy with people, I’m not the type of person that is mentally OK being alone (like alone as in single), I know that’s a turn off and red flags for a lot of people, but that’s just how it is.

And I have been trying to find somebody that is like me that actually is OK with obsessive love, infatuation, someone where you put all of your time and energy into, they are your entire soul, life.

I cannot be with a person if I don’t have that emotional and intellectual stimulation first, no matter what they look like. We have to connect the same on an emotional, mental level.

But everybody I have talked to online says this is incredibly unhealthy and that I need help or need counseling.

I don’t understand, I don’t judge people for what they like, or what they need, or what they want, I don’t know what I’m doing wrong, I don’t even know what groups on Reddit that I should go to for monogamous relationships that are having qualities like these that I am looking for.

I’ve already joined Fetlife, actually I was on that dozens of years ago before I even met my soulmate that I was with for over 10 years. And I honestly do not recommend that site, I have never met even one decent person from there, and that says a lot, cause I’ve talked to a lot of people from there.

But I don’t know where to look at online, and I’m severely socially awkward in person, I am very shy, even though once you get to know me, I’m actually really wild and crazy, in a good way. (Least I think so.)

But I will not purposely throw myself out there and start talking to somebody unless somebody really catches my attention and they initiate a conversation first, or unless they have a really fast (and dangerous) sports bike, since I’m a bit of an adrenaline junkie, I also have a form of Mania but it’s not the kind that has ups and downs, highs and lows. It’s where I’m in an elevated state, 24/7.

So this may be a turn off to some people.. I have had exes tell me in the past before that were younger than me, by like 11 years, anyone that wants to be in a successful long-term relationship with me, has to be on drugs. But my previous soulmate that I have been talking about, he didn’t do drugs and he was able to keep up with me just fine.

I think it’s just the mental state of mind.

But this also makes it hard for me to actually connect with somebody, people really like me usually initially at first when they first meet me, then they end up always telling me that I’m too much.

I require very little sleep and I have way too much energy, so they usually say I’m way too obsessive or infatuated or clingy or needy, this is what I keep running into.

So I don’t know what to do, is online dating really just completely and totally impossible for someone that likes the same things as I do?

I need some help, being alone is driving me insane, but I can’t seem to find anybody that has my same interest, and definitely not from my state. I’m in Arkansas, close to Missouri.

Would like to play with someone who has somewhat of a competitive edge, but also likes to play for fun.
I have a headset.
I’m on PS5, USA, and play on either East, Central, or West coast.
PM, thanks!

I’ve never done an obsession spell before, or any kind of spell to sway a person towards me, actually, but I met this amazing person, we connected to each other instantly.
But they are confused as to what they want..
They say they are seeing someone right now, but their not serious, they haven’t labeled themselves as anything officially yet, but they say they are really into this person, and want to see how it goes..
Yet..
They spend almost all their time with me.. they hold me, they snuggle me, they let me spend the night and hold me all night long, they rub my hands, hold my hands, take me on sports bike rides where they make sure I hold them tightly, then give me hand rubbings through our gloves as well.. look into my eyes, mush all over me..
I want this person to make up their mind and chose me.. my heart can’t handle the wishy washy stuff they keep telling me, because their actions say the complete opposite.

So can anyone tell me please, how to perform a spell that makes them choose me, and want only me?

I’ve never done an obsession spell before, or any kind of spell to sway a person towards me, actually, but I met this amazing person, we connected to each other instantly.
But they are confused as to what they want..
They say they are seeing someone right now, but their not serious, they haven’t labeled themselves as anything officially yet, but they say they are really into this person, and want to see how it goes..
Yet..
They spend almost all their time with me.. they hold me, they snuggle me, they let me spend the night and hold me all night long, they rub my hands, hold my hands, take me on sports bike rides where they make sure I hold them tightly, then give me hand rubbings through our gloves as well.. look into my eyes, mush all over me..
I want this person to make up their mind and chose me.. my heart can’t handle the wishy washy stuff they keep telling me, because their actions say the complete opposite.

So can anyone tell me please, how to perform a spell that makes them choose me, and want only me?

I’ve never done an obsession spell before, or any kind of spell to sway a person towards me, actually, but I met this amazing person, we connected to each other instantly.
But they are confused as to what they want..
They say they are seeing someone right now, but their not serious, they haven’t labeled themselves as anything officially yet, but they say they are really into this person, and want to see how it goes..
Yet..
They spend almost all their time with me.. they hold me, they snuggle me, they let me spend the night and hold me all night long, they rub my hands, hold my hands, take me on sports bike rides where they make sure I hold them tightly, then give me hand rubbings through our gloves as well.. look into my eyes, mush all over me..
I want this person to make up their mind and chose me.. my heart can’t handle the wishy washy stuff they keep telling me, because their actions say the complete opposite.

So can anyone tell me please, how to perform a spell that makes them choose me, and want only me?

I’ve never done an obsession spell before, or any kind of spell to sway a person towards me, actually, but I met this amazing person, we connected to each other instantly.
But they are confused as to what they want..
They say they are seeing someone right now, but their not serious, they haven’t labeled themselves as anything officially yet, but they say they are really into this person, and want to see how it goes..
Yet..
They spend almost all their time with me.. they hold me, they snuggle me, they let me spend the night and hold me all night long, they rub my hands, hold my hands, take me on sports bike rides where they make sure I hold them tightly, then give me hand rubbings through our gloves as well.. look into my eyes, mush all over me..
I want this person to make up their mind and chose me.. my heart can’t handle the wishy washy they keep telling me, because their actions say the complete opposite.

So can anyone tell me please, how to perform a spell that makes them choose me, and want only me?

I’ve never done an obsession spell before, or any kind of spell to sway a person towards me, actually, but I met this amazing person, we connected to each other instantly.
But they are confused as to what they want..
They say they are seeing someone right now, but their not serious, they haven’t labeled themselves as anything officially yet, but they say they are really into this person, and want to see how it goes..
Yet..
They spend almost all their time with me.. they hold me, they snuggle me, they let me spend the night and hold me all night long, they rub my hands, hold my hands, take me on sports bike rides where they make sure I hold them tightly, then give me hand rubbings through our gloves as well.. look into my eyes, mush all over me..
I want this person to make up their mind and chose me.. my heart can’t handle the wishy washy shit they keep telling me, because their actions say the complete opposite.

So can anyone tell me please, how to perform a spell that makes them choose me, and want only me?

I upgraded to ultra this morning because I was on standard, but now as soon as I try to do, voice calls on the app, it keeps giving me this error code;

Failed to connect: Audio Engine Error (Audio engine returned error code: -4010)

Yet, on the web version, I can do voice calls just fine.

I’ve already tried shutting down the app, restarting my phone, I’m not exactly sure how to clear the cache on the app on iPhone, but short of that I have tried everything else, I’ve even emailed support and I am waiting for a response back from them, but does anyone know why now I cannot use my phone for voice calls on the app after upgrading to the ultra plan?

Apparently, this Reddit group is something new that I was told that I have by some of my ex partners, I’m not so sure if I do or not.

I am obsessive, I am fixated, I am infatuated, and I am super intense whenever I’m in a relationship, I fixate on that one person, and they are the single most important thing to me.

I guess you could almost say that I lose some of myself in the process, but I’m still me, but I just give like everything of myself to that person and they are the most important thing to me.

And I’ve been told all my life that that’s too much, that I’m too intense and too chaotic of a person, even though all I want is somebody to love me back the same way that I love them.

So I don’t know if that puts me in the category of this group or not, but I don’t see it as anything wrong, even though the rest of society, the majority of it does.

Does anyone else ever feel like this, totally alone and misunderstood completely? Just because of the way you love somebody?

Every single relationship I have been in except for one my entire life, the guy usually always ends up, running away from me hard. After about maybe 2 to 4 1/2 years max. Everyone always says that I’m way too needy, too clingy, too obsessive, to infatuated.

All I want is somebody to love me back the way that I love them, and my love is hard-core, I’m a chaotic person, and I’m very intense. It doesn’t mean I can’t be soft or I don’t want normal things I guess, but as far as the love goes, I don’t want that to be normal. And I don’t see anything wrong with that.

I want the love to be an all consuming fire that burns 24/7, people say that I constantly stay in the honeymoon stage of a relationship, that I never get out of it.

Isn’t that a good thing? Isn’t it a good thing to be obsessed with somebody and infatuated with somebody so much so that you would do anything in the world for them, that you love them, so much that they are the single most important thing in your life, and that you always wanna be around them as much as humanly possible?

Apparently other people say that this is abnormal and I need to go to therapy or I don’t need to be in relationships at all.

I’m so tired of being hurt, I’m 43 but I look like I’m in my 20s still, everybody always compliments me and says how young I look, but yet, no one wants to have a long-term relationship with me because of how intense I love.

Does anyone else get told these things and feel completely alone like I do right now?

So, I will try to be as descriptive as possible, so that others here know why I am requesting help to do an obsession spell.

I originally had a soulmate of almost 11 years. He had very bad trauma, and ended up shooting himself after he started talking to a Counselor for just too short months.

He was a love of my life, I never thought I’d ever find anyone like him ever again, and I wasn’t looking for it.

That’s when I met my current relationship.

He was absolutely amazing, he seemed like the same exact person as my soulmate, only slightly different and only some things.

Most of their personality and traits are exactly alike.

Fast-forward from a very long story, we’ve been together on and off now for about 2 1/2 years.

We took a break after our first year, due to him having family issues and not willing to leave his mother to have a relationship with me.

9 1/2 months ago, I brought him back into my life, and he left his mom and tried to have a life with me.

We ended up having to move in with my mom, and everything just fell apart.

His whole personality and attitude changed, he went from being super into me and telling me that the only way we left each other was in a body bag, to all of a sudden, wanting to be cold and distant with me, and telling me that he never wish he ended up meeting me or becoming this serious with me.

I have found a place for us to go that I can afford on just my income till he’s able to find a new job over there, and it’s a perfect life for us.

I just want the man that I fell in love with, to be happy finally again with him.

But he has became so cold, he says, living with my mom changed us and our relationship, but he’s unwilling to try and go back to the way things were, and he ended up hurting me a lot as well, physically and emotionally and mentally.

I am fully aware of how dangerous this type of spell is, I’ve been in a witch for most of my life, I’m 43 years old, but I almost feel like I am the one that had the obsession spell put on them, because I literally can’t even seem to function without him anymore.

He went back home, about a month ago, and my life has went to shit.

My health has deteriorated greatly, and it seems like all I ever can think about is the next time that I can talk to him or see him.

He’s totally disinterested in me, he keeps telling me that he just got too serious with me, and didn’t want it, we were also engaged, I bought him a ring, and I had to buy myself my own engagement ring because he wouldn’t. Because he didn’t want to spend that much money.

I know that the majority of the commons I get here will tell me that I can do better, and to go out and find somebody who actually wants me and that deserves me, and I know that every single one of you will be right.

But it’s like that saying, you can’t help who you love, and unfortunately, I can’t help this.

But I just want the guy that I fell in love with back. Because I don’t wanna do the dating game I don’t wanna do the looking game, I don’t wanna do the trust game and have somebody rip your heart into shreds.

So any help on how to perform an obsession spell on him to make him 100% committed to me and devoted to me and think about me all the time all day every day like I do him, that way I can actually move us to this place and we can have an actual life together, would be greatly appreciated!

Looking to see if anyone has anything close to a mars cat is, only, available in the USA and preferably not that expensive!