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TL;DR: I’m in an abusive relationship with an older man who claims he used to practice “bad magic,” has demons, and wanted a lock of my hair. I feel completely unable to leave him, and one of his exes recently told me an eerily similar story, including finding her hair in his closet. I’m scared and desperately need advice.
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I’m begging for some perspective because I really don’t know what to do. PLEASE read if you can. I feel like I’m trapped.

My current boyfriend is much older than me, and we met when I was deep into addiction with my ex, who was extremely abusive mentally, physically, and sexually. I was isolated and wasn’t allowed to talk to anyone. My current boyfriend was someone I worked with, and he was the only person who consistently checked on me, remembered things about me, got me a birthday present, etc. Eventually we got together because he promised to get me away from the abuse and treat me right.

After we started dating, he told me that when he was younger he got heavily involved in “bad magic.” He said he had rare books, someone who taught him, and that scary things started happening before he eventually quit. He also told me that before we were together, he would yell my name when he was alone and wanted a lock of my hair but wouldn’t tell me why. And that’s just what I know.

He’s also told me that many of his old houses were haunted, that he has bad energy, demons, and that he’s cursed and all his friends die.

Over time, he became extremely manipulative, mean, and constantly gaslights me. I’ve tried to leave, but I feel like I literally can’t. It feels like I’ll die if I don’t have him. I’ve never been this attached to someone who treats me so badly. I don’t know if it’s a trauma bond or something spiritual.

The thing that really scared me is that I recently found one of his exes. He always called her crazy, but her life story was incredibly similar to mine. She said word for word, “It was abusive, demonic, crazy and bad. Run.“ She said he told her he had demons and liked them, and that she once found a lock of her hair in his closet.

I’m genuinely terrified. I don’t know if I’m dealing with a trauma bond, manipulation, something spiritual, or some combination of things. I’m scared I’m never going to get away and that somehow I’m just going to end up marrying him. He can be so sweet and I love him, but I seriously have always been confused on if I really love him.

Please, if you’ve experienced anything like this or know anything about this kind of situation, please help me understand what’s happening. I really need some perspective.

Edit: I just remembered something else that might be relevant. For a while, his dog kept waking me up because I’d hear her screaming/howling from the living room, but whenever I made him check on her, she’d be completely fine and sleeping peacefully. We eventually got the idea to cleanse/protect the house, so I researched it and we bought some things, but he never actually wanted to do it. I’d ask every day and he always had some excuse about why we should wait and “think on it.” Is that suspicious, or am I overthinking it?

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I have had my doggie since he was around 6 months old. Hes 8 now. Hes always slept with me at every apartment ive been at ever, in my bed, right beside me. Every nap and cuddle. I recently moved in to my moms house (my childhood home) since graduating college & of course he comes with me everywhere I go. He was sleeping with me in my room upstairs up until a few months ago. Then he just stopped. He wont come in the room, when I call him he will walk away or acts scared to cross the threshold? Sometimes when Im not paying attention and not begging him to come in, hell occasionally lay on my rug for a few minutes but not for long. This all started a few months ago when my cat got really sick with cancer. He was 5, and been around my dog his whole life, they were cuddle buddies, they practically grew up together while I was in college. Well, fast forward to my cat getting sick and growing a huge tumor and eventually passing away at the vet. Im not sure if my dog knows he passed or not bc he never came back home one day. Ive told him and let him smell his whiskers and hair in a jar, but Im not sure he knows. I was thinking it was that? And he feels my cat in the room? Or thinks something is off or different? I have also been doing spellwork and protection and shadow work in my room and have multiple offerings to my ancestors and Isis on my altar. Maybe he feels energy from that and its too strong? Im trying to figure out whats going on with him and my room. I still want to cuddle with him and spend time by him, so ill occasionally take naps in my moms room with him, because hell go on her bed, or lay on the couch with him so he knows I still wanna be by him and nap. It just upsets me because all of his 8 years we have been cuddle buddies, and now he wont even sleep in my bed through the night without panting and whining to get out. Any ideas what hes going through? I just miss my baby boy.

Hi everybody. I’m new to my spiritual journey and have only recently accepted the possibility of magic into my world. Long story, but the conclusion is that I’ve recently accepted that tarot specifically is a medium my ancestors have effectively been using to communicate with me. Since I accepted this and started pursuing spirituality more seriously, life has gotten much harder.

I bought some candles from a witch my friend trusts for spiritual protection and today, the box arrived torn up and the candles inside were smashed even though she’d packed them with a ton of bubble wrap. Lit one of the protection candles and spoke to my friend about what was happening.

Her theory is that since I’m coming into my own spiritually (and she says powerfully) there is a backlash energetically to try and prevent me from continuing my study. My tarot deck backed up this theory and added that this is just something I need to get through.

My questions are

1. Has anybody heard of someone having something like this happen before?
2. Is there anything I can do to make this process easier or quicker?

I don’t know what info is relevant to you as you’re trying to understand and give advice, so if you have any follow up questions please ask and I’ll answer when I can. Thanks so much!

Hi,

I am a very begginer witch. I was wondering if I can perform a freezer spell for a situation, but I am unsure how to go about it. It is not for me but is affecting me too

So long story short, my mum's husband who's passed, left lots of debt on her name basically. He was an abuser and she managed to leave, but didn't got a chance to divorce him. They had joint mortgage loan. He stopped paying long ago, my mum didn't even knew. He gathered lots of debt. Anyway he passed, and now there 's bailiff on my mum, making her life difficult, asking to pay for his debt. They froze her bank account and they are taking quite a lot from her salary, leaving her in a lot of distress. My mum got a lawyer trying to negotiate on the sum they are taking but the lawyer is not helping and looks like he is lying. The actual bailiff, blocked my mum's number when she was trying to communicate. The house is still there, nobody lives there because my mum lives in her parents house with her disabled sister. She said to them a million times to sell the property and leave her alone but they don't seem to agree on that. She gave up on any inheritance. It's like that horrible man is still affecting her life, even from his grave.

I don't live in my home country but I wish I could help my mum. I know the bailiff full name, and work address. I also know the name of the bank.

How exactly would I write that petition for a freezer spell? I was confused if I should mention my mum's name, feels wrong to do it so what would your advice be? 🥲

The preferred outcome would be for the bank or bailiff to stop taking money from my mum. Or at least freaking less 😭